Who cares as long as in the words of that great orator, Rondey King, “can’t we all juz get along?”.
Am I the only one that has been engaged in what I call â€œIâ€™m right and you are wrong contestâ€?Â Whether it is with one of my boys, a possible intended, or a wife as the case may be.Â There are always power struggles.
In my experience, power struggles begin to emerge around developing NEEDS AND WANTS that need to be related to. For example, at times I have felt like the person I was dealing with and myself both had the need to be heard and be seen. There also seems to be a need to listen and resolve past hurts â€“ I find that the secret here is to respectfully articulate and listen to each other about past hurts.Â Â That usually does the trick â€“ itâ€™s the ability and willingness to enter into a dialogue that is important.Â Right and wrong, guilty and innocent, belong in a courtroom and not in a loving relationship or a valued friendship, where both sides are usually right at the same time (howâ€™s that for complexity!).
I suggest that you do as I have committed to do. Buy a book that teaches emotional communication so we can learn to avoid that ugly struggle of â€œIâ€™m Right!â€, â€œYouâ€™re Wrongâ€.
Hey LifeTrain passengers, join me today in learning the path of loving and respectful communication so that differences may be addressed.
OH!…and about the picture.Â I know, it had nothing to do with today’s post…but it did make you read didn’t it?Â GOTCHA!!!
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