Make this an autumn of self-kindness.

All Aboard!  As I help you up onto the train today I give you a business card (white with black raised lettering)  It reads:


Take care of yourself.


I’d like to simply share two of the most powerful and useful tips that have helped me to take care of myself in the past few years.  I hope they will help you to make this an autumn of self-kindness.

Stay away from the grey zone.

When you get stuck in thinking and worrying about your job when you are at home or your private life then you are stuck in the grey zone.

Mental rest required…

And as you may have noticed in your own life, it can be a very destructive mental habit. It robs you of so much energy and creates huge amounts of stress and worries. It can leave you so unfocused that you cannot do your work well or spend quality time – time when you are mentally 100% there – with the people closest to you.

I have had quite a bit of trouble with this in the past and what works best for me to stay out of this mental zone is to set up very firm limits.  To take a 15-minute break for every 45 minutes that I work. To not work after 7 o’clock in the evenings. To keep my weekends workfree and disconnected.  It is not easy in the beginning and if you’re like me you’ll slip during those first weeks.  But, after a while, it becomes easier and easier to keep these areas and your thoughts about them separate and to keep your attention and energy focused in the right place.


Be your own best friend when you stumble.

Take time for you…

When you make a mistake, fail or stumble in life then it is so easy to start beating yourself up.  When that happens this fall, promise yourself to not fall back into this old and destructive habit.  Instead, take care of yourself by asking yourself: How would my best friend/parent support me and help me in this situation?

Then do things and talk to yourself like he or she would.  This simple habit can keep you from falling into a pit of despair and it helps you to be more constructive after the first initial pain of a mistake or failure starts to dissipate.

Hey passengers have a self-kind week!

All ABoard!   The LifeTrain!