November 8, 2016

Compare yourself to yourself because no one is coming…

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 12:30 am

All Aboard!  Hey passengers, hope day two is going well for you.  Thought I’d leave you a “Tuesday Tip” to mull over as you listen to some LifeTrain radio, see button upper right.

Here we go.  Instead of comparing yourself to other people create the habit of comparing yourself to yourself. See how much you have grown, what you have achieved and what progress you have made towards your goals.

Preserve your joy...no more comparisons...

Preserve your joy…no more comparisons…

This habit has the benefit of creating gratitude, appreciation, and kindness towards yourself as you observe how far you have come, the obstacles you have overcome and the good stuff you have done. You feel good about yourself without having to think less of other people.

I would like to share one of my favorite thoughts on self-improvement.  This short thought comes from Nathaniel Branden’s book The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem and it simply goes like this:

“No one is coming”.

Short. But it has been a powerful and sobering reminder for me. Because yes, you can look for the next big thing that will fix you.

Read more blog articles. Read more personal development books. Look for people to help you. And yes, some articles, books, products or people will

No one is coming...

No one is coming…

give you support and insights that resonate deeply with you and that you can put into practice.

But in the end, if you are an adult then no one is coming. No one is coming to save you. You have to take responsibility for your own life and what happens in it. Other things and people can certainly aid you quite a bit. But you are responsible.

You can go around blaming society or some people for your problems in your social life. Or finances. Or health.  You can always find scapegoats to judge to feel better about yourself. You can look for people that will “fix you”. You can do this for the rest of your life if you like. It won’t change much. Whatever has to be done, it’s you who have to take responsibility and do it.

Yeah, things might always not go your way. You’ll fall and stumble and you will probably have bad luck from time to time.

But you still have to focus on yourself and on doing what you can do with what you have in whatever situation that may arise in your world.

Have a great and self-kind day!

All Aboard!  The LifeTrain!

2 Comments »

  1. When you have ‘conscience’ of who you are, and the person you need to be, there is no need for comparison… What you have expressed, I have actually always known but had to learn to allow myself to believe it. Continue with your thoughts of you, though they will not feed all, their substance will help (more that you may ever know) others to grow within themselves.

    Comment by Joseph Abbey — November 8, 2016 @ 10:00 am

  2. Well Mr. Conductor… this post is one that will make you pull back and think…at least that’s what it caused me to do.

    As long as we have breath in our bodies, we are going to be faced with disappointments, failures, heartbreaks, or just flat-out life issues that will bring us to that ‘woo is me’ point in our lives. God never promised us that it would be easy and that all of our days would be filled with sunshine and rainbows. But He did promise if we stay the course (handling our let downs, disappointments and failures His way) that it would be worth it. I believe His way includes taking ownership of our lives, in every facet, as we journey through life. The only persons we can really depend on is God and self! So our best bet is to make sure we use any and all resources that can help us through this journey as positive as possible.

    Generally speaking, it’s very easy to shift the blame for the course of our lives on others as we wallow in self pity. BUT, at the end of the day I know, my life is just that…MY life! The only one responsible for me, is me and I cannot, nor should I, give that position to anyone else. Reading this post reminds me that when I reach the point of woo is me, there is but one thing I can do… well actually two… First I can take my burden to the Lord because He said I could. There, I can seek and find comfort in Him. However, I also know my pity party is not a place where He want me to get comfortable. He’s bigger than that…but He loves me enough to let me make my own decisions. Like you said, there are many resources that I can tap into that will aide in my self motivation. My conclusion to this post… Until I learn how to grow to the point where I can move past my disappointments and troubling life issues with a positive outlook on life, I will continue to live my life at the hands of others…and I refuse to do that. Life has so much more to offer me.

    Thank you for this thought provoking post! Many God continue to bless you with the desires of your heart is my prayer for you!

    Your faithful passenger,
    Carmen

    Comment by Carmen — November 8, 2016 @ 9:53 pm

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