The Secret Is Out – Trust me on this one, I’m a guy…
on August 7th, 2008 at 5:43 amWhat could be more romantic than receiving a love letter? A good old fashioned, hand-written love letter is still one of the best Valentines around, but don’t just save it for February. A love letter is a powerful expression any day of the year.
You don’t have to be Shakespeare to write the perfect love letter. All you need to know is how you feel. What makes a love letter so romantic is that it is deeply personal. It shows your beloved how well you know them, and that knowledge is the very stuff of love.
As you are writing be specific. Tell him exactly how he makes you feel and what he does that makes you feel that way. Write in the second person ( use “you” ) so that your letter speaks directly to him. Before you start writing, take a few moments to think about your beloved. The following questions can help to get your thoughts going:
* What is his greatest strength?
* What do you see in him that he doesn’t see in himself?
* What is the most romantic thing he has ever done for you?
* What does he do on a regular basis that shows you he cares about you?
* When did you fall in love with him?
* What about him pleasantly surprised you?
* What is your favorite memory of the two of you?
* How has your world changed since you got together?
You can start your letter anyway you like as long as you include his name. You don’t have to be super-mushy right from the start, a simple “Dear _____” works well. Begin your letter with a very specific quality that you appreciate about him. Make the sentence exclusive – for example “I’ve never met anyone as _______ as you” or “No one has ever made me feel as____ as you do when you ____” Starting out this way shows him that he ranks higher than anyone else in your books – a great way to start a love letter.
As you write, tell him exactly how you feel. Use specific examples that show that you’ve been paying attention. Remind him of the things he has done that really meant something to you. Share a favorite memory and a hope for the future. Don’t forget to say “I love you.” It doesn’t matter how long or short your letter is, as long as it’s sincere.
There’s no rule that says you have to use poetry in a love letter, but if you’re stumped finding just the right words, one or two carefully chosen lines can work really well. If you don’t have a poem in mind, there’s a lot to choose from online. If you want to use something other than the usual classics, I highly recommend “Dance Me to the End of Love” by Leonard Cohen.
Once your letter is complete, read it over carefully and check for errors. This letter will be read over and over. You don’t want a mistake spoiling the mood.
If you want to add an extra special touch, seal the envelope with wax. Sealing kits are available at most fine stationary stores, but a regular taper candle in a dark color works just as well. Simply light the candle and carefully drip a small puddle of wax about the size of a quarter over the flap.
Once the letter is complete, drop it in the mail and wait for a great response. If you’re lucky, you just might get a love letter yourself.
I love this thought for the day! When God sends my mate, and he will! I will remember the love letter.
I climbed on board in the wee hours and saw your song of the day. All I could do was smile and think about how very romantic you are. Uh…have I mentioned that for a while now I’ve expected to hop on board and find a wedding announcement? Where is she? Can’t she see that you are simply the best? Well…Uh…hmm…guess I’m a bit anxious.
Thanks Chuckie. The love letter is a wonderful idea that I am certain many of us have already used. And if we haven’t we will now.
I have in the past taken a page out of Stevie’s book and simply called to say these three words: “I Love You.” It’s not necessary to have any further conversation. Just say those words and tell him you’ll see him later.
I believe that Boomers ought to take total advantage of the technology that is at our disposal. I think text messaging is a great tool for romance. Receiving an “I luv u, been thinking ’bout u all day can’t wait to c ur smile” text message when you’re in the middle of a two hour meeting can help your loved one to sail through the rest of his/her day.
Tammy
P.S. It’s also good to text the kids (esp. your college age kids) during their day as well.
Thanks for the advice. When God sends me my mate I will remember that.
Be Blessed
Michelle
Thanks guys, I was wondering how this post would go over. I really appreciate you guys!
Thanks for the advice. It will come in pretty handy later.
For those who have had the pleasure of reading Chuckie’s most recent post on sending a “Love Letter” to that special someone, my suggestion would be to try drafting a love letter to yourself. Take time to appreciate all of the blessings you have to share with yourself and others, create a “Love Letter of Recognition / Appreciation” for the wonderful person that YOU are.
Start by asking yourself …
*Am I going to be honest in my response to the following questions? If so, proceed accordingly with pen/pencil and a few sheets of paper …
*What are my greatest strengths/character traits/attributes ?
* What do others see in ME, that I might not see (or acknowledge) in myself?
* What is the most romantic (loving) thing I have ever done for myself (How do I “love “ME” on a daily, weekly, monthly basis)?
* What do I do on a regular basis that shows others how much I care about myself, and that demonstrates that I am worthy of being loved?
* When did I learn to accept who I am, in spite of my imperfections (When did I fall in love with me ?) … “Reciting my mantra GOD isn’t finished with me yet … I am perfect in his creation ”
* What is your favorite memory of falling in love with yourself? WHEN did it happen and HOW ?
* How has YOUR world changed around you, since YOU realized how wonderful YOU are ?
Of course, it may be difficult answering these questions. However, if you don’t have an intimate (introspective) relationship with yourself, how might you expect someone else to be postioned to love you (especially if you don’t know what you are “bringing to the table” and in this case “a relationship”)?
Additionally, if you don’t particularly care for your responses (and that is possible), decide what modifications you may need to make while getting to know yourself better. Then decide how you can take the necessary steps to fall in love with YOU!!!
Map out a plan, decide a course of action and don’t fall prey to the paralysis of analysis !!! UNLOCK YOUR POTENTIAL !!!
Well, I see my stop around the bend, but before I depart your company – a few last thoughts …
*Don’t be afraid to develop a list of your own questions!
*Have a party and invite a few close friends over to experience an “I love to love me party” – everyone brings a dish and a good book, or a favorite bible passage or a poem, the name of a good place to get pampered, discount coupons to a spa membership, start a walking or yoga group … the possiblilities are endless ! Request that everyone purchase a new journal, wrap it in a gift bag or pretty paper then determine a way to gift each of the journals to each of the guests. (Note: no one should go home with the journal they originally brought with them)- Keep the circle of sharing with others alive !
*If clothing just doesn’t look the same on you anymore or you bought something that your “younger sister” should wear, or you just made a purchase because it was “on sale”, consider having a clothing swap meet with your “Triple G’s” – that would be your “Good, Good, Girlfriends” … if Oprah can do it – so can you !!! (Food, friends and frolic in addition to enhancing your wardrobe or purging your overstuffed closets – What a concept !!! ) Note: Just for fun, have a fashion show on the same day, modeling your new clothing selections – if it doesn’t look right to your girlfriends, SWAP AGAIN !!! (smile) Friends are painfully honest and shouldn’t let you go outside in something unbecoming (smile)… Laughter is the best medicine !!!
*Make a CD/DVD and include some songs of encouragement – then share it with friends: songs from various artists such as Patti LaBelle (I’ve got a new attitude)!!! Or consider a CD entitled “Sisters: Songs of Friendship, Joy and Encouragement for Women” … Read aloud passages from the Bible or from a book like Chicken Soup for the Soul (or from something that provides encouragement and love)… then distribute it at your “I love to love ME Party” !!! Have you begun to see a common theme … (FOOD, FRIENDS, and COMMRADERIE)
Additionally, if you don’t particularly care for your responses (and that is possible), decide what modifications you may need to make while getting to know yourself better. Then decide how you can take the necessary steps to fall in love with YOU!!!
Map out a plan, decide a course of action and don’t fall prey to the paralysis of analysis !!! UNLOCK YOUR POTENTIAL !!!
Additionally, if you don’t particularly care for your responses (and that is possible), decide what modifications you may need to make while getting to know yourself better. Then decide how you can take the necessary steps to fall in love with YOU!!!
Map out a plan, decide a course of action and don’t fall prey to the paralysis of analysis !!! UNLOCK YOUR POTENTIAL !!!
Signed with LOVE,
Angel Rider
You’ve done it….once again Chuckie…..It’s beautiful….stimulating the mind and soul…making me painstakingly aware of just how important it is to be reminded or to remind that special someone….that they make your world a more wonderful place…..the comment by Angel Rider……A MUST READ!!!!