Dec09
As you may know, or hopefully don’t know, the holidays can be a lonely and depressing time for us single folk if we fail to focus on the true meaning of Christmas. So…, I am installing a new page for the holidays to provide a level of encouragement and comfort for those of us “Baby Boomers” who find ourselves single during the holidays. Some practical advice found under the “MAIN” section…entitled “Home For The Holidays!” Check back often as the material will increase over the next few weeks. …And who knows…that fat man in the red suit under your tree this year might just be me!  Chocolate chip and skim milk please. I’d clear a room out if it’s Whole…ok…ok…you didn’t need to know that…
U r a remarkable writer!! U express yrself so eloquently that it sounds as if we are on the same page in several different aspects of our lives. Your ideas are fresh and unique and give singles an opportunity to try all of them to make it thru the holidays.
Well said and good suggestions. I think what depresses me most about the holidays, isn’t so much my singleness but how commercialized the holidays have become and the true meaning of the season has been forgotten by many. Thus, why your suggestion to do something for someone else such as working in a food pantry etc is a great one. The true meaning of the holiday is giving of yourself, not how much money you spent on a gift for someone.
Jean
and i thuoght that it was just me!!!
Being single lends an opportunity to share our time with others who, in some form or another, are doing just a little worse than us.
I’ve made a decision take the focus off ‘widdle ole’ me and put the focus back on what God intended: For us to encourage, love and sacrifice time and even a few dollar bills to others who are having difficult challenges.
So, this from Christmas and until I die, I will spend a lot of my time sowing my time and/or my money into other people’s lives.
I’ve decided to use my Christmas spending time laughing and hashing it up with the ‘mature’ people who have in some way greatly contributed their time. You know those people don’t you?? The ones who seem to be forgotten… locked behind bricks walls and gates.
Take a minute to imagine yourself with the same active thoughts locked in your 75 year old body, but you can’t get that body to execute the same commands the brain instructed it to do 40 years ago?
Can you imagine looking out the window at a world in which you feel you don’t belong and has forgotten about you? You look around and all you see are white, wired-haired peers gradually pushing walkers and straining to see through their cataracts. And the only reality of the world you get to see first hand is the staff, some of your peers’ family and friends, television. Only through that medium do you get to see how the world has drastically changed.
You have no children, or your children died before you — and that’s not supposed to happen. Even your siblings and friends have raced you to the grave and won! Can you imagine feeling the loneliness? The loneliness in knowing that you exist, but you feel as if no one else knows, or even gives a rat’s ragged tail? They need us! The foster children, the homeless, the poor, the broken-hearted… they need us!
You know what I want? If there’s a heaven where there’s a line of people who thank you for the differences you’ve made in their lives, I want to have a line so long that I can’t see the end of it. But, if I never receive one appreciation in my lifetime, I know that I’ve made a difference in God’s eyes.
I’m too young… too single… and too free to cry why me. Why should I say I trust and then cry? There’s that time to cry and then that time to suck it up and stop delaying His walk and begin to obey His walk.
I ask this question: If we’re single and feel lonely, because we don’t have a significant other this Holiday — why are we feeling this way on His day? It’s His birthday, not ours.
The Byrd
I feel the same way. I would love to spend christmas with a special person. I have a lot of love to give and share. I’m glad to have a family to take up some of the loneliness, but one day the Lord will send someone to me. It might be you. (hummmm!!!) (anirt8691)