July 25, 2016

The Courage To Quit…

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 1:00 am

“Celebrate endings, for they precede new beginnings.” ~Jonathan Lockwood Huie

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We often think of quitting as failure. We commend people for carrying on when times get rough. The heroes in our action movies don’t just give up when things get difficult. When was the last time you saw Steven Seagal walk away from a fight?

As the saying goes, “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.” Society expects us to fight back and battle on.

But sometimes, quitting is most definitely the right thing to do.

Sometimes, it’s the best option. A lot of people assume that it’s the easy thing to do—that only defeatists and good-for-nothin’ drop outs would even consider such a “cop-out.” This is not the case.

I learned this myself when I finally make that looming decision to end unhealthy relationships.” Even the words sound negative, as if I’ve fallen away from society, failing to meet my expectations. But I don’t see my decision as a negative thing at all, and oftentimes it wasn’t the easy thing to do.

I remember feeling imprisoned at times.  The longer I stayed, the more trapped I felt.f123

I could have continued going against my instincts; it would have been easier to sail along, ignoring my unhappiness for a few more years instead of stepping out into the world alone.  But I knew in my gut that the situation at the time wasn’t right for me, and that I needed something new. So I left, and no matter what friends, family, or acquaintances thought the decision, I know it was the right choice for me.

It doesn’t mean I was weak; it means I was brave enough to change what wasn’t right.  Sometimes you feel in your gut that the path you thought you were meant to take is wrong for you. It takes a lot of courage to admit that, even to yourself, let alone to the rest of the world. Sometimes you have to leave that path and find a new one. Or, if there is no new path to be found, create a new one.  This can apply to so many aspects of life—home, work, education, family, friends, relationships, and habits.

I’m not saying that if something doesn’t feel right or instantly work out that you should give up on it straight away. Carrying on is also brave and can be the right decision. But if you know that quitting something is the right thing to do, don’t be afraid to do so because of what others might think.

Make a change in your life if you know you need to…

We only have a limited amount of time and yet a limitless number of different paths to go down. Don’t waste your time on one that feels wrong, on something that is compromising your happiness. Find something new.  We all quit something at some point, so don’t fear the stigma.  Do what brings you happiness. Embrace the change.

“There are things known and there are things unknown, and in between are the doors.” ~Aldous Huxley.

Open some doors and let the air in. Breathe.

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July 10, 2016

About days everything seems to just go wrong…

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 12:28 pm

All Aboard!  Greetings Fellow passengers!

On some days everything seems to just go wrong.  And sometimes it is not just days we’re talking about. But a week or months when things feel tough and rough and you just want to go home and give up.  I’ve had many such days and periods but over the years I have also become a lot better at handling them and not letting them drag me down.  So today I’d like to share 3 things to remember when your whole day, week or month(s) seems to go wrong.  I hope they’ll be as helpful for you as they have been for me.

1. There is a brand new day tomorrow.

When you come to a fork in the road..Take it. Yogi Bera

When you come to a fork in the road..Take it. Yogi Bera

Just because this day or the last week didn’t go well doesn’t mean that there is not a brand new day tomorrow.  A day when you can start anew. With taking action to move towards what you want, likely having a bit more luck and when it will be easier to see that this difficult time is only temporary and not permanent (even if it might feel that way right now).

2. I have handled tough situations in the past.

When you are standing in the middle of things going wrong then you might get a bit panicky. And lose faith in yourself and your abilities.  Then look to the past for a bit of strength and confidence in what you can do.  Doing this helps me to feel like I am standing on firmer ground again. And sometimes I can even find a solution I used for another challenge in the past that I can reuse or read just to get me out of this situation too.

3. What is going well in my life though?

It is very easy to get stuck in focusing on the negative things and so they drag you further and further down into self-criticism and negativity.  But don’t forget that there are still things that are going well in your life. It may be small things. Or things you often take for granted like a roof over your head, clean water or three steady meals every day.  I find that zooming out in this way helps me a lot to snap out of destructive thought patterns and to feel more level-headed again.

Have a “Super Fantastic” week ahead!  All Aboard!

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