June 16, 2014
Merry Monday fellow passengers! All Aboard!!! Kick the music, enjoy the ride!
As you board the train I give you your daily business card. It simply reads:
THE TWO WOLVES…WHICH ONE WILL YOU FEED THIS WEEK?
One evening a grand-father sat talking to his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all. “One is Evil – It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. “The other is Good – It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”
The Grand-father simply replied, “The one you feed.”
Passengers, as you roll down the tracks this week…remember, feed the right wolf…
All Aboard! The LifeTrain!
June 9, 2014
All Aboard! As you board the train I hand you a black and white business card which reads:
“Our interactions with one another reflect a dance between love and fear.” ~Ram Dass
In my personal experience, I’ve learned that it is sometimes easier to dance this journey of life solo rather than in partnership. Many of us have experienced life both in relationships and outside of them.
Both are just as sweet… Yes, it’s true…
And thus we begin this week’s journey down the [Life] tracks…KICK IT! (When I say kick it, I mean the music that I felt appropriate for this post – All ABOARD!)
I’d like to offer up some lessons I have learned in my dance in and out of relationships:
1. They are not meant to last forever.
Our society seems to put a lot of pressure on the idea that things will last forever. But the truth is, everything is impermanent.
After a recent break-up, I found myself feeling as though I had failed the relationship. Then I stepped outside of my conditioned thinking and discovered that love and failure do not reside together.
For when you have loved, you have succeeded—every time.
It was Wayne Dyer that introduced me to the rather practical concept that “not every relationship is meant to last forever.” What a big burden off my back! Of all the souls hanging out on this planet, it seems to make sense that we might have more than one soul mate floating around.
Relationships can be our greatest teachers; it is often through them that we discover the most about ourselves. In relationships, we are provided with an opportunity to look into a mirror, revealing what we need to work on as individuals, in order to be the best version of ourselves.
Each relationship will run its course, some a few weeks, months, years, or even a lifetime. This is the unknown that we all leap into.
2. Attachment is often the cause of suffering.
We sometimes cling to people in an attempt to hold them closer, but this often pushes them further away.
The Path To Healing
In love there is nothing to grasp; it is so expansive that trying to capture it is like trying to capture water with a net. When we attempt to control where a relationship is going, we become disconnected with the sweetness of the moment.
Ram Dass shared one of the most exquisite paradoxes: “As soon as you can give it all up, you can have it all.”
It is silly to think that we can own someone’s love, but many of us have tried to do it.
I often find myself fantasizing about how my future will unfold with a new partner, but it is in that moment when I fall out of the present.
We have the opportunity to surrender to the natural flow of relationships, letting go of our proposed outcomes and taking ourselves out of the driver seat.
This means being fully present in moments of intense love, conflict, uncertainty, vulnerability, and joy.
3. Being vs. doing.
“CLICK” the image for the message…
In the beginning of relationships, we strive to show up as our best selves, hoping to impress the other person and to receive their love in return. In most cases, we are focused on doing simply because we want to make an outstanding impression on the person we fancy.
But if you’re anything like me, being and doing are extremely hard to keep up at the same time.
In relationships there is work, but there isn’t much we have to actively do. In fact, doing can often be associated with attempting to control a situation.
The place where we should hang out is in the being. Being allows us to show up as our authentic selves. When we show up as humans “being”, something magical happens. Being is our natural state. Love thrives in this space.
4. Allow for change.
Don’t be attached to any particular way your partner is showing up each day. Change is inevitable. As “humans being”, we are constantly growing and discovering new passions and experiences.
For example, next week your partner might wake up with the realization that they want to leave their job as a lawyer and become a yoga instructor. How will you respond?
Love is the GREATEST dance in life…
The news might be shocking and somewhat unusual, but change happens. The question is, can you allow space for that? I learned this lesson the hard way. I’m confessing in hopes that you won’t (make the same mistake).
Oftentimes it is harder to embrace change within others than it is to accept within ourselves. If you are anything like me, consistency is super important; however, completely unrealistic. Someone once told me “you are consistent with your inconsistency.” I initially took this as an insult, but now I see it as a practical strength. It shows movement and willingness to change.
I’m not saying my post today is a panacea or right for everyone but, I do know this… Love is the greatest dance in life. Surrender to each step, hold your partner close to your heart, but don’t grasp. If we can allow ourselves to enter into partnerships with this awareness, it may dramatically shift the way we see and experience relationships and love…
And remember everything is impermanent except the Love of our Lord and Savior, Jesus, the Son of God. Enjoy the ride Passengers…
All Aboard! The LifeTrain!
June 6, 2014
This weekend I plan to look out on life with amazement, not shock. I hope you will join me. Let’s celebrate the variety, the diversity, the manner of every person, the beauty amidst the drudgery,of last week. The contrasts, the opportunities, the heroism in the lives of ordinary people, our gifts, our talents, our friends – even just one friend – is all awesome. Let us live in awe, and entertain wonder, and we will be knocking on the door of true love. Don’t kill it (that love) with cynicism or criticism, don’t sabotage our lives with moaning and complaining. This week, let’s open the eyes in our heads and the eye in our intellect and choose to see the stunning, awesome, diverse beauty of life happening around us right now. Let’s meet it with our hearts and we will enrich and be enriched in one single moment.
A friend told me recently, about the importance of properly watering plants and people we love in our lives to realize growth. Join me in applying that water this weekend and watch things grow into AWESOME!
All Aboard! The LifeTrain!
June 2, 2014
“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.” ~Maya Angelou
All Aboard! Kick it! (The mood music for this piece…)
I have realized recently that every small thought, every decision, every step we take has a huge impact on us, and the world around us.
I have also realized that every interaction is the opportunity to do good and receive good. Whether it is a phone call, a shopping trip that I was asked to participate in (I hate shopping), or even considering your fellow travelers when playing music on the shuttle that I had to drive to Washington DC last week..
Today I also realized that I have, almost without realizing it, become a slightly better person. I feel like I am more mindful of the world around me, more humble about my place in it. That makes me feel happy and fulfilled.
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So, this week make the effort to make your every interaction a positive one. To face the world with a smile and a kind word. If you throw kindness out in the world, it will bounce right back, only multiplied several times over.
Last Thought to start your week:
Rediscover the Beauty of Life
I’ll be completely honest with you: this is not something that just happened to me overnight. I’m still working toward my new career path and finding what I really want out of life. I still get frustrated or upset sometimes, and I still have a lot of work to do.
But something changed the day I decided to take life into my own hands and seek out the beauty of life.
I became more aware.
I started attracting more happy moments and wonderful people to me because I actively sought them out, and what I put out came back to me tenfold.
I seek out the good stuff instead of dwelling on the not-so-good.
And, through this, I’ve learned that the more we search for the beauty of life, the more we invite it in. As kids we noticed it with ease, exploring to our heart’s content but, as adults, we sometimes forget to pay attention.
We get caught up with the mundane, we focus on the negatives and we love joining in on a mutual whine-fest with others. But imagine how much we could gain from our day if we took a moment to soak in the bliss of being alive.
Lying in the grass, laughing with a loved one, being recognized at work for doing a great job, swapping out things we don’t like with things we love, acknowledging someone else and seeing their joy, and just embracing the moments that make up our day-to-day lives is the key to finding the extraordinary in each day.
It may not always seem that simple but, I promise, if you’re willing to give it a shot, try it out, and be intentional when seeking out wondrous moments, it will make a significant difference to your life. And, the more you practice, the easier it will be to see.
This week, I invite you to be aware of what you might need to change and seek out possibilities for joy in the coming week.
Find ways to bring the fun in and keep your eyes wide open for special moments or people that can make your life even more beautiful. Or, even better, take time to be grateful for what you’ve already got.
Try it out, see how you go, and then leave me a comment and tell me how it went!
All Aboard! The LifeTrain!!!