February 26, 2013

Yo Mr. Conductor…What you cooking?

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 12:33 am

Happy endings in the oven today!

All Aboard!  Kick it! The wine with our meal…the music:

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When it comes to happy endings, we can all think of the ultimate romantic stories when after all the persuasion and troubles a couple finally come together in matrimony and live happily ever after.

Let me tell you a little true story about a how a woman found her story’s true happy ending (even in the midst of adversity and knowns):

This is the story of a friend of mine who is very successful when it comes to her career.  In business she is a force of nature.  You dare not mess with her. And, personally she is a real darling at heart. So caring, ppppcompassionate, giving; a lovely human being. She has a lovely eight year old daughter who is her world. The arrangement with her Ex is that the daughter visits him on weekends and holidays.

For many years she would not get into another relationship, because she didn’t want her daughter to feel left out and of course in her heart of hearts she expected her ex to change for the better. She thought it was never going to be possible for him to change, so she just immersed herself in work.

She recently met this nice guy. However, she refused to date him.  He was persistent and claimed he was in love with her and that she was THE ONE for him.  Slowly but steadily the relationship grew.  Eventually, she said she was also in love with him. She said he loved her daughter and was good to her etc.. There was no interference from her ex.  However, things were going smoothly until he proposed and she accepted.

As soon as she accepted the proposal and started planning for her wedding, fights between them started and escalated.  They disagreed on everything. They both kept putting it off as pre-wedding jitters.  And so they continued…still fighting, still fussing.

p2One day while she was trying on her wedding dress, her ex dropped off their daughter at the store where she was trying it [wedding dress] on. When her ex husband saw her in the dress, he just broke down, and told her how much he loved her and that separating was the biggest mistake he had ever made in his life. She told him it was too late, she was moving on. She quickly turned and walked away from him.  She came to me, I held her as all she could do was cry. She kept saying “why now? Why couldn’t he have realized this five years back? Why is he doing this to me?” I couldn’t do much but try and comfort her at that point. Then I asked her one question: “Are you still in love with your ex husband?” To which she just stared at me in shock. She couldn’t even react to the question…let alone answer it. She just hurried out and told me she would call later.

I’m such a dude…I’ll never fully understand women…

Meanwhile back at the farm…

The next day she called and told me her wedding was off and that she was getting back with her ex husband. I was pleasantly surprised, a bit afraid but, not shocked. They were the kind of couple who were meant to be together forever but, ego clashes made that impossible to happen earlier. I guess the time and distance made them both realize that. And when faced with the ultimatum of losing the other forever, well, I guess it triggered off the actual feelings that were buried deep inside.

Later she told me amid tears of joy, “Chuckie, I found my perfect happy ending!  We are a family again.  It took me so long to realize this, but I am so happy I realizedp3
my Happy ending. Its not too late for us as yet. We can see our daughter grow together. We can have our lives back.”

I was obviously happy for her. But it made me wonder about what she said: My Happy Ending.

I always presumed happy endings to be more fairy tale like.  But, I now see that we can make our own tales and put magic in them as well. We can find our own paths that lead to happiness. I know life is long and has so many experiences that enrich us. I think there is a happy ending after every experience that ends favorably and even if it doesn’t end favorably we can strive that much harder to make it a happy ending… I understand that the journey can be enriching as well.

I would like to think of our lives as a collection of happy endings just waiting to happen. Now its up to us whether we choose to make them happen or sit on the sidelines and just dream of them happening.

Lets all get out there and find and collect our truly happy endings! I think we owe it to ourselves.

Don’t you??

All Aboard!  The LifeTrain

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February 22, 2013

You know you’re in love when you don’t want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams. ~ Dr Seuss

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 12:25 pm

All Aboard!  Welcome aboard passengers, today’s destination Station is a place called “Love”.  But first, the mood, the music…kick it.

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Love is the most profound emotion known to human beings. For most people, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives. But the ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. Almost all of us have experienced a failed relationship, and most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish. The good news is that with effort and perseverance, you can learn what you need to know to make your relationship last.

Having reviewed many 100s of quotations on the wonders–and woes–of romantic love, here are some that I think represent the very best. At the same time that many of the quotes below celebrate the many joys of romantic–almost fairy-tale–love, they typically also demonstrate great awareness of its transience, its maddening let-downs and instability. The most cynical quotations, which (I admit) are well-exemplified here, may perhaps have 1been written by those who loved–and lost.

But win or lose, who could deny that romantic love is life’s most spectacular adventure? When we’re transported from living in 3-D to the awe-inspiring expansiveness of 4-D, unquestionably it’s in the consciousness-altering intensity of being in love. As William Thackeray opined: “To love and win is the best thing. To love and lose, the next best.” Of
course, when love fails–whether it’s through being rejected, or falling out of love–our immediate distress, disappointment (or disenchantment) can feel utterly devastating. So in the short run, “loving and losing” probably doesn’t feel much like “second best” at all. Yet it’s definitely true that no matter how romantic love ends, the experience is one that can enrich us and tell us something about ourselves that almost certainly we wouldn’t have realized earlier.

All in all, I think most people (at least on reflection) would agree that the tender–or tumultuous–experience of loving was worth it. At its best, romantic love transmutes into something less fervent but more balanced and mature. And, at the same time it becomes less passionate, it evolves into something deeper and broader. And love, even at its worst, well, it’s still a learning experience–a most valuable one, too, as long as you allow it to teach you what you need to know to be more successful next time.

trapIt’s fascinating to me how many of the following quotes have a paradoxical flavor to them. The altered mood–even state of being–linked to loving seems inherently to lend itself to all sorts of ironic observations. My hope is that in reading through these quotes, you’ll experience some delightful ah-ha! moments–along with whatever sighs, grimaces, and head shakes come up as a result of remembering lost loves, crushed dreams, dashed hopes,
and so on.
Finally, quite a few of these quotations may have a lot more to do with infatuation than love (romantic or otherwise). For I define “infatuation” quite literally: that is, to be made to act foolishly (i.e., as derived from the

“fatuous”). So, for instance, we have these two quotes: “Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly” (Rose Franken), and “Love is being stupid together” (Paul Valery).

But enough introduction already . . . enjoy! These choice quotations–from classic to contemporary–are (to me at least) not simply food for thought, but precious delicacies to be nursed and savored:

The sweetest joy, the wildest woe is love. ~ Philip James Bailey

Mysterious love, uncertain treasure, Hast thou more of pain or pleasure! . . . . Endless torments dwell about thee: Yet who would live, and live without thee! ~ Joseph Addison

My ultimate love song of joy, dreams and hope ~ C. Prince Daniel

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Love spends his all, and still hath store. ~ Philip James Bailey

Could I love less, I should be happier now. ~ Philip James Bailey

Love is for fools wise enough to take a chance. ~ Anonymous

People who are sensible about love are incapable of it. ~ Douglas Yates

A heart that loves is always young. ~ Proverb

One’s first love is always perfect until one meets one’s second love. ~ Elizabeth Aston

Love at first sight is one of the greatest labor-saving devices the world has ever seen. ~ Anonymous

Love conquers all things except poverty and toothache. ~ Mae West

Love is a many splintered thing. ~ Proverbtt

Love and eggs are best when they are fresh. ~ Proverb

Love makes the time pass. Time makes love pass. ~ Proverb

There is love, of course. And then there’s life, its enemy. ~ Jean Anouilh

Love is like dew that falls on both nettles and lilies. ~ Proverb

Love and relationships are truly one of the most paradoxical aspects of being human. For it is in love that we find the greatest of strengths and the deepest of sorrows. Love can seem to be so fleeting and unachievable, yet it remains well within our reach if we only learn how to embrace its power. To experience true love, we must be willing to open ourselves up and sacrifice part of our heart and part of our soul. We must be willing to give of ourselves freely, and we must be willing to suffer. It is only when we expose our inner selves to the white hot flame of rejection, that love can burn so brightly as to join two souls, melding the two into one, creating a bond that joins forever. It is from this bond that we draw strength eternal and power everlasting. It is in this thing that we call love that we find the means to achieve greatness, both in ourselves and in our lives. ~ Anonymous

In this world of extremes, we can only love too little. ~ Rich Cannarella

Love is the word used to label the sexual excitement of the young, the habituation of the middle-aged, and the mutual dependence of the old. ~ John Ciardi

Love is a canvas furnished by nature and embroidered by imagination. ~ Voltaire

hIf there is anything better than to be loved it is loving. ~ Anonymous

Love built on beauty, soon as beauty, dies. ~ John Donne

He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals. ~ Benjamin Franklin

I never knew how to worship until I knew how to love. ~ Henry Ward Beecher

We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness, and call it love. ~ Anonymous

No one has ever loved anyone the way everyone wants to be loved. ~ Mignon McLaughlin

The one who loves less controls the relationship. ~ Anonymous

If love is blind, why is lingerie so popular? ~ Anonymous [frankly, I’m guessing that whoever came up with this one probably pleaded not to be identified!]

True love is when you put someone on a pedestal, and they fall–but you are there to catch them. ~ Anonymous

The woman cries before the wedding, the man after. ~ Proverb

Pleasure of love lasts but a moment, Pain of love lasts a lifetime. ~Jean Pierre Claris De Florian

Love won’t be tampered with, love won’t go away. Push it to one side and it creeps to the other. ~ Louise Erdrichmir1

There is hardly any activity, any enterprise, which is started out with such tremendous hopes and expectations, and yet which fails so regularly, as love. ~ Erich Fromm

The love we give away is the only love we keep. ~ Elbert Hubbard

Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it’s cracked up to be. That’s why people are so cynical about it. . . . It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more. ~ Erica Jong

We are not the same person this year as last; nor are those we love. It is a happy chance if we, changing, continue to love a changed person. ~ W. Somerset Maugham

Love is a temporary insanity, curable by marriage. ~ Ambrose Bierce

Romantic love is an illusion. Most of us discover this truth at the end of a love affair or else when the sweet emotions of love lead us into marriage and then turn down their flames. ~ Thomas Moore

Falling in love consists merely in uncorking the imagination and bottling the common-sense. ~ Helen Rowland

Falling in love doesn’t kill people. Landing does. ~ Fang

Falling in love is so hard on the knees. ~ Aerosmith

hhLove isn’t blind, it’s retarded. ~ Don Foster & Susan Beavers

Love sought is good, but given unsought, is better. ~ William Shakespeare

There is no remedy for love but to love more. ~ Henry David Thoreau

When one is in love, one always begins by deceiving one’s self, and one always ends by deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance. ~ Oscar Wilde

In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities. ~ Janos Arany

Love in action is a harsh and dreadful thing compared with love in dreams. ~ Fyodor Dostoevski

And my favorite:
You know you’re in love when you don’t want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams. ~ Dr Seuss

Oh how I long for that insomnia. ~ C. Prince Daniel

Have a great weekend!

All Aboard!  The LifeTrain!!!

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February 19, 2013

As long as there is breath in our bodies…

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 8:20 pm

Passengers, welcome aboard.  If you are like me you long for a day when there are no problems; no issues to face, no difficulties to resolve, or challenges to overcome, no setbacks to endure.

KICK IT!  The mood, the music…

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You yearn for a time when you, your family, your friends and your world are free from complications, strife and tribulations.

Know this:

“That day will not come”.

Why?

Because it is in facing our issues that we grow and expand.
In resolving difficulties, we experience a sense of accomplishment and meaning.
In overcoming challenges, we discover just how powerful we are.
In enduring setbacks, we take our greatest steps forward.hole

We need to do our best to make things better but know that future generations will have their work to do and this is how it is meant to be.

There is a perfect plan inherent in life’s imperfections. In our efforts to make our world whole, we’ll discover our wholeness.

Not a sermon, just a thought…

All Aboard, The LifeTrain!

February 14, 2013

Is that the Boogie man in the dark…or Love?

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 1:46 am

HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!!!

There’s a Passenger’s comment at the bottom of this post, check it out….

Now, here we go, ALL ABOARD!!

Strange, isn’t it, that we’re willing to sacrifice almost anything for love? As lovers, partners, parents, friends, we enter into relationships with a crazy kind of happiness and hope.  And even when we’re fully warned about the disillusionment that always follows that first blush of frenzied hope, we still find ourselves suffering painfully when it happens, too often feeling like a failure.  I don’t need to tell you that people can be destroyed and upended by failed relationships with a parent, child, spouse, sibling, friend or lover.  Undoubtedly you know from your own experience how the promise of being open, trusting and intimate with another person can become dark, frightening, painful or dead in ways you could never have imagined at the outset.  If love were a commercial product or gadget, it would have to be recalled [laughter].   Nothing that fails so badly and so often would be allowed to stay on the market.

KICK IT…

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Why, in spite of its painful malfunctions and repeated failures, do we sustain our wild hope for love?

Because, I believe, love is the only way we can really come to know and accept ourselves as we are.  The human spirit is born in a couple relationship – we come into life inside someone else – and it thrives in dyadic relationships. A pair bond, not an individual, is our fundamental “unit” of consciousness.  Left alone, the fragile human infant folds in on itself and dies.  Throughout life, no matter how much we deny or rationalize it, we know intrinsically that we need someone else – first a parent, then a friend, then a partner, and then perhaps our own children – in order to discover who we are. Just as we can’t see our own faces (but only a reflection in a mirror), we forever need others in order to come into contact with ourselves.

mmanEven as adults, we all long for someone to hold us in mind on a daily basis and to talk us into ourselves.  We want someone to stand on common ground with us and help us see our strengths and weaknesses, hopes and dreams. Love seeds our lives with questions of meaning and opportunities for penetrating the mysteries of being human.  Love invites us repeatedly into intoxicating fields of interconnection in which we must come to discern who we are in relation to a specific other.

Though love presents us with rich possibilities, it also brings pain, rejection, confusion and conflict. In loving a child or a partner, we have to trust and depend on the other, as well as be trustworthy and dependable in our own right. Do we take our closest relationships to be a place of freedom where we can most truly be ourselves?  Or do we take them to be a kind of prison in which we are bound to the needs of others through guilt or a desire to please?  In our adult lives, our closest relationships bring a daily opportunity to heal our emotional wounds and, paradoxically, constitute the greatest obstacles to doing so.

Quite a while ago, the writer Scott Peck reminded us that “love is not a feeling,” by which he meant that love requires cultivating and refining and sustaining a particular attitude towards your beloved (whether a partner, a child, a friend, a spiritual teacher, a parent — once you’re grown up — or yourself). Love is an attitude of gentle and friendly attention, a willingness to be interested in the other, to take care of the other even when your feelings are hurt, sometimes even after you have been harmed.  And this attitude, while it involves generosity and optimism, does not include martyrdom or self-abnegation. Rather it is a way to keep your heart (which includes what you might call your “mind”) open through the brokenness and broken-heartedness that all love relationships guarantee.  Indeed, love requires you to take a training to break your heart while keeping contact with hope, flexibility and new discoveries.

A tragic and unwelcome brokenness in my own life brought me to a new understanding of love. Beginning somewhere in the early 2000’s, I realized that I was headed to something I did not want in any way shape or form, Divorce.  When it finally occurred my life changed forever.  …and mostly for the good.  At the news that I was being abandoned my life changed at that moment; And the LifeTrain was born.  Born to help facilitate change, comfort and growth in both myself and others.

Alone now, I find myself repeatedly returning to the meaning of love. I have been a Christian since the age of nine, thank God for his son…and a writer for about the same amount of time. In more ways than I can say, myrgiii

dedication to my faith and my writing has allowed me to survive and remain vital. They have also helped me discern the core nature of Love (whether for a partner, a parent, a child, or a friend). It is: the ability to be a warmly attuned witness who accepts the other’s foibles, takes pleasure in the other’s being, and is dedicated to refining his or her views of the other and one’s self until they are truly trustworthy. No matter how many financial, physical or other resources a partner or parent may provide, what is worthy of being called “love” always includes the aim of coming to know the particularity – the nobility and frailty – of our beloved. Rather than being emotionally managed, manipulated, used or tolerated, love means being interested in the beloved as a person with his or her own subjective world. This kind of love–and only this kind of love–endures as conditions and demands change in our emotional landscape. It is not simply a feeling; it is a discipline and a life-long spiritual pursuit of self-knowledge through accepting knowledge of others.

On this blog, with your help, I will forever chart a path that shows how we move from our first encounters with love (relating to a sibling, falling in love, having a baby, meeting a new friend) through a series of faltering engagements (repeated attempts to see the beloved through the mist of our own emotional obstacles and delusions) to the realized vow to remain a warmly attuned witness–even when cherishing those we love becomes a one-way street. I will talk about the obstacles to true love, the gap between people, and working with anger and hurt. I will draw on my experiences of many years, the failures as well as the successes.  Together, we will look honestly at the paradoxes and demands of loving truly and deeply. I look forward to our continued journey together.

All Aboard!  PS>  See a Passenger’s thought on this after/during your next mood selection

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I truly love all the comments from the LifeTrain passengers.  They are all truly insightful.  So, feel free to click the “comments” button on each and every post to give us your perspective on the day’s topic   Here’s an example of just one of our many passenger’s thought on today’s topic:

After much marination…I find myself still needing a little marinating time…I need some more tips. Whew, this topic is oh so big…and so present in my thoughts. LOVE…how does one define it? I, like my name sake (Angie), love your insight into this topic. I actually took notes as I was reading it…lol. Why notes, you wonder…well, I was worried that I would forget the things that struck a chord (I think it was a blues chord) deep within me…that’s the musician in me speaking. So, a friend and I were talking the other day about love…and she stated that sometimes love fades/fails. Well, I feel differently about this…maybe not correctly, but definitely differently. I don’t think that love fails…1Cor 13:7 &8. My friend was quick to say no that it was Godly love that never fails…but it doesn’t say that. Here is my thing, yes I know relationships end, and friends depart ways, but I don’t think that is because of the love leaving…I think it is the willingness/the wanting that leaves. People fail to continue to love…after hurts, disappointments, etc. We decide, as you spoke of in the your last paragraph to no longer accept our beloved after failed engagements, be it emotional obstacles and delusions and even our own projections of what love should look like. I am soooooo glad that our Father in heaven is who He is…and that He behaves so differently than we do to disappointments and our foibles. Not that it doesn’t bother Him…BUT thank God, He continues to LOVE us. He already made room for it all through the life, death, and resurrection of His son. Okay, so that was just one area of the topic that struck me…just 2 more. Well, they actually can combine into one… Can I just say I have never thought about the fact that we can never truly see our own faces, only reflections of them…Wow. So the idea that we come to know ourselves or even just see ourselves through the interactions we have with others is quite profound to me. So is this why we search and desire relationships with others so much…I mean, can we truly ‘be’ alone or do we need others to really ‘be’. The bible says that man was not meant to be alone…so, is that because without others we can not truly be known…particularly to ourselves. Does our meaning exist or persist through our interactions with others? This is so like if a tree falls in the woods and no one is there to hear it, does it make a sound? Yeah, I know…my mind is all over the place…like I said, I need some more time to marinate…just saying. Thanks for making me think, like you always do. I’ll be back. Hugs!

 

February 12, 2013

Tuesday’s Life Tips on the LifeTrain…

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 7:42 am

All Aboard!  Welcome to “Tip Tuesday” on the LifeTrain.  Today we have some very important tips that I hope you will both consider and share as we move on down the tracks today!

But first, of course, the mood music over the train’s intercom, Kick it:

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Today’s tips:

ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

THREE. Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

FOUR. When you say, ‘I love you,’ mean it.

FIVE… When you say, ‘I’m sorry,’ look the person in the eye..

SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.

EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone’s dreams. People who don’t have dreams don’t have much.

lt1NINE… Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the only way to live life completely.

TEN.. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.

ELEVEN. Don’t judge people by their relatives.

TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.

THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile and ask, ‘Why do you want to know?’

FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

FIFTEEN. Say ‘bless you’ when you hear someone sneeze.

SIXTEEN. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.

SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R’s: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.

EIGHTEEN. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

NINETEEN. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice

TWENTY- ONE. Spend some time alone.

 And Passengers, remember…

A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.

 

Tuesday’s Tech Tip…

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 12:05 am

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Lock your dog and your spouse in the trunk of your car for an hour.
When you open the trunk watch which one is happy to see you!
It works, it really works!

February 11, 2013

Merry Monday! This week remember, “It ain’t over, Till it’s over!”

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 12:06 am

Hey Passengers, “Merry Monday!”. This week keep the following in mind:

As the cliche’ goes, Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.

Fear, lack of confidence and low self-esteem tends to make us jump to conclusions. If what we are facing is near to our hearts, we have a tendency to expect the worst…Sound familiar? We miss so much, including opportunities to change, when we get to the end from the middle. We forget our focus and the goal when we poise ourselves for failure.

I read that the ancient Africans knew that no matter what was going to happen, it would not happen until it happened. Therefore, they were prepared for all possibilities, the good and the bad. More and more I am trying not to jump to conclusions, as I now realize that I could be wrong.

Hey fellow passengers let’s try not to pull out in the middle that is a total waste of time. Keep your faith, trust and stay focused, put your best foot out anyway. The ancient ones had faith and trusted, knowing the end is only a reflection of the beginning.

You know what…think about this, how many marriages could be saved if this principle were applied?

And guess what? If you are on the Train, reading this now, …The end is not here yet.

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February 8, 2013

“The Bookstore” A LiFeTrain Original Short…

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 12:01 am

Grab your favorite Drink, light a candle, cut your PC speakers up

and Click the Picture …

(May take a few secs to load)

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Hope the weekend is off to a GR8 start.  🙂

February 4, 2013

Merry Monday! Let’s start the week with a lot of…

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 12:19 am

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Passengers….ALL ABOARD!!!  Kick it, the mood, the music:

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Confession…I will be looking in the mirror listening to a recording of my own voice of this post the entire week.  I can truly say I needed this and I hope if you did…I pray this post will spur you on to a Super-Fantastic week as well due to a reminder of the value and virtue of “PATIENCE!”.

To be patient means having the ability and the composure to hold back and wait for something to happen without feeling anxious, becoming irritated or panicked. In reality this is a difficult characteristic for us to adopt especially when stress has a hold. It requires enormous self-control. Although we are aware of how virtuous it is, it takes a certain level of maturity, personal growth and a well-balanced lifestyle to be able to truly achieve this. True, there are those who are genetically calmer with a more restrained personality but when life takes over even those folks can become impatient.

When one is impatient they have a strong compulsion for immediate results for whatever it is they are pursuing. When you take a child to the store, they seek instant gratification almost every step of the way. How many times

Lord, this week grant us Wisdom, Patience and Discernment...In Jesus name.

Lord, this week grant us Wisdom, Patience and Discernment…In Jesus name.

have you heard “I want” this or that and if they don’t get it at that moment the entire store hears about it. As adults, the drive for pursuing anything worthwhile means letting go of the “gotta have it now” mentality like we were when we were children. Success is a marathon not a sprint, it means diligently doing your part, pacing yourself, and allowing the puzzle to fall into place.

To be patient means learning how to cope with your anger and hostility. If you have a short fuse, it will blow up in your face very often. Getting to know yourself and what lights your fuse easily and having a plan for diffusing
the situation when they arise helps to keep you unruffled. By diffusing your anger you can learn to be more understanding of the rhythm of the world around you and tune in to it. When you are tuned in you can better play the Game of Life with a temperament of calm and peace. This state of mind enables more clarity of thought and the ability to make more rational decisions.

To be patient doesn’t mean you have to take a step back and slack off on your efforts. It means doing the tough work but understanding that you are not alone in your pursuit of your goals. There is a world out there that consists of people who you depend on and who depend on you for progress. That means things are not always go at the pace who envision. Even though you become irritated or angry and your blood pressure is through the roof, things are not going to suddenly change for you. Therefore, you must be willing to accept setbacks, human error, and disappointments along the way.

Another mirror moment...

Another mirror moment…

Passengers, please join me in encouraging one another…to have Patience this week and the weeks we are granted beyond.

As you leave the train today let me leave you with some quotes to refer to…  ALL ABOARD!  The LifeTrain!

Quotes on Patience

  •  “All things come to him who waits – provided he knows what he is waiting for.” – Woodrow T. Wilson
  • Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.” – John Quincy Adams
  •  “Patience is the companion of wisdom.” – Saint Augustine
  •  “He that can have Patience, can have what he will”- Benjamin Franklin Our patience will achieve more than our force.” – Edmund Burke
  •  “The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it.” – Arnold H. Glasgow
  •  “Patience is not passive; on the contrary, it is active; it is concentrated strength.” – Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton
  •  “Everything comes gradually and at its appointed hour.” – Ovid
  •  “Nothing gives one person so much advantage over another as to remain always cool and unruffled under all circumstances.” -Thomas Jefferson
  •  “Genius is eternal patience.” – Michelangelo
February 1, 2013

Will the NFL be gone in 30 years? And…

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 12:01 am

Would you now allow your son play football?

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A lot of attention is now being focused on “THE GAME”…the game that taught me so much about life, FOOTBALL!  For me, the journey started when I was in the 4th grade, playing pee-wee football for the Springfield  Ohio, Little tigers.  The relationships formed from those three years, through junior high ball and High School last to this very day.  When I talk to the fellas we recall plays and things that happened during those years as if they literally just happened yesterday.  But, that’s not what this post is about (The glory days).  It’s about injuries and the evolution of the game.  As a side note, it was an injury that caused me to lose several athletic scholarships.

I was listening to sports talk radio while driving the other day.  The debate was raging on between the radio hosts and the callers about the decision to allow their respective sons to play Football based on recent deaths and injuries.   There were some very good arguments being made, pro and con.

Let’s take a look at one of the hardest hitters in the game has to say about the future of the NFL, then I’d like to ask you again, would you let your son now play football? CLICK

As I continued driving, I pondered, had there been a Little Chuckie, would I allow him to play, “THE GAME”?  I’ll let you in on that…tomorrow.  Today, it’s your turn, you have the mic (Microphone).  Would you allow your mini me to play?  If so, why or why not?

As a side note, it was an injury that caused me to lose several athletic scholarships offers.  To this day I am still deaf in one ear as a result of a concussion.  So the plot thickens.

I hope you’ll share…and Hop back aboard tomorrow as I share my thoughts on this.