October 31, 2012
Hey Passengers, most of us are typically happy when there are no uncomfortable challenges in our lives. There is nothing wrong with that. However, when change is required, challenge is necessary. Never allow challenge to throw you off your game. If you want the upgrade you’ve been praying for, you have to be ok with change. Change is made possible by challenge. Ask God to give you the strength to endure this NECESSARY challenge that will lead to the change you’ve been praying for!
1 Corinthians 10:13 – Good News Translation – Every test that you have experienced is the kind that normally comes to people. But God keeps his promise, and he will not allow you to be tested beyond your power to remain firm; at the time you are put to the test, he will give you the strength to endure it, and so provide you with a way out.
Not a sermon…Just a thought.
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There is one thing that Shirley Murdock has learned throughout her career and that is to enjoy life. Every time Murdock is given the opportunity to use her God given gifts, she does it with a smile.
Murdock smiles real big when she is performing with friends in her hometown of Dayton, OH.
On the Friday, November 2nd, Murdock will join her music friends and family in her home city of Dayton, OH for the Dayton Gem City Music Fest.
Shirley will be live in concert with The Zapp Band and other home town artists. The Gem City Music Fest will take place at Dayton Masonic Center, 525 W. Riverview Ave., Dayton, OH and begin at 7:30pm. The Dayton Gem City Music Fest is sponsored by Brite Lights Entertainment.
For more info on the Dayton Gem City Music Fest contact: (937) 608-7249
October 30, 2012
At the top of the page (see above) and following the last article on each page you will see the words “Older Entries”. Click those words to go to previous day(s) of posts as far back as you would like to go…back to 2006 when the LifeTrain first pulled out of the station down the tracks.
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October 29, 2012
Hey passengers, Merry Monday! All Aboard and welcome to a new week. We are hunkering down this week as the Train leaves the station once again hoping that Sandy will not rattle the tracks to bad. So, hang on and this week I ask you to LEAD!
Solve Conflicts this week by taking the LEAD!
Conflict is not in and of itself a bad thing. In fact, conflicts in relationships can be constructive when used as a vehicle for improving communication. The following four steps can help you use conflict as a tool for gaining clarity, creating deeper understanding and strengthening relationships.
When you are in the midst of conflict, take the LEAD to manage it respectfully and calmly.
Listen to what is being said. Many times, conflict arises from a simple lack of understanding or miscommunication. Avoid making assumptions about what you hear. Instead, ask for clarification. For example, “I heard you say X, is that what you meant?”
Explore the feelings that come up – Sometimes conflict escalates because something about the situation is an emotional trigger for us. If you’re feeling upset by the conversation, try to determine where the feeling is coming from. Take several deep breaths and try to remember that what is happening now is completely separate from the past. You can manage conflict more effectively if you deal only with the matter at hand. When you start introducing memories and past sleights it will be tough to get past the history of bad feelings to work toward a positive outcome.
Affirm the other person’s point of view. You don’t have to agree to understand the other point of view. Simply acknowledging and validating someone’s feelings can be a powerful tool for resolving conflict positively. At the end of the day, most people just want to be heard.
Decide on a fair course of action. Now that you have a clear idea of what the problem is and where the person is coming from, it is time to explore some solutions. Throw out some ideas that you can vet together. Choose the soundest option that you can agree on. Plan to revisit your decision within a specified period of time to see how you are doing and what changes, if any, need to be made.
Hey passengers, be a leader this week, Lead!
As you hop off the train at your station stop, I have a question for you? Do you feel like I do?
I hope and pray you do, we are alive, relatively pain free and this side of six feet!
All Aboard, The LifeTrain!
Sandy is coming so…The train might be delayed a bit over the next few days… but, Lord willing…
In the meantime I would axe that you:
Not to say you shouldn’t keep checking back daily…
All Aboard! The LifeTrain!!!
October 26, 2012
Let’s go on a date tonight. Let’s just pick a warm, private, rainy place. Let’s kick off our shoes and shake off the past week’s trials…and opportunities to succeed (seeing the glass half full), and let’s learn how to “DANCE N DA RAIN!”.
I had a vision and desire after reading the below story. I would very definitely like the opportunity to dance in the rain with someone special. I chose this song because it’s fun and….kinda romantic…click, read and share the story with someone special, I just did! Thank you for riding and have a GR8 weekend!
It was a busy morning, about 8:30, when an elderly gentleman in his 80’s arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He said he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am. I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound. On exam, it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his stitches and redress his wound.
While taking care of his wound, I asked him if he had another doctor’s appointment this morning as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife. I inquired as to her health.
He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer’s Disease. As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.
I was surprised, and asked him, ‘And you still go every morning, even though she doesn’t know who you are?’
He smiled as he patted my hand and said, ‘She doesn’t know me, but I still know who she is.’ I had to hold back tears as he left, I had goose bumps on my arm, and thought, That is the kind of love I want in my life. True love is neither physical, nor romantic.
True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.
With all the jokes and fun that are in e-mails, sometimes there is one that comes along that has an important message. This one I thought I could share with you here on the LiFeTrain…
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The happiest people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; They just make the best of everything they have I hope you share this with someone you care about. I just did.
‘Life isn’t about how to survive the storm, but how to…
“Dance in the Rain.”
And Always Remember…
October 25, 2012
Welcome aboard Passengers for another round of discussion with Dr. Hath. Last week we discussed causes of Anxiety, this week we talk about coping skills.
KICK IT! (The Mood music)
Chuckie: Dr. E! Welcome back aboard the Train.
DrE: Glad to be back. And I love the flowers you left for me in the Medic Car.
Chuckie: They’re coming Doc, they’re coming…it’s the least we can do for you.
Dr. E: Roses will get you everywhere my dear.
Chuckie: Well Doc, the interview last week brought alot of email and requests for what we are about to disucss. Coping skills.
Dr.E: Well, my dear, we could title this interview: Understanding your anxiety. That is the big part each individual plays in dealing with Anxiety, Understanding.
Dr.E: First let’s review what Anxiety is and is not. According to its medical definition, anxiety is a state consisting of psychological and physical symptoms that are brought about by a sense of apprehension at a perceived threat. These symptoms vary greatly according to the nature and magnitude of the perceived threat, and from one person to another. What it is not is respective of persons. Anyone can suffer from anxiety; all of us will at some point in our lives so it is nothing to be ashamed of or to be ignored.
Chuckie: What are some of the recognizable symptoms of anxiety?
DrE: Psychological symptoms may include feelings of fear, an exaggerated startle reflex or alarm reaction, poor concentration, irritability, and insomnia. In mild anxiety, physical symptoms arise from the body’s so-called fight-or-flight response, a state of high arousal that results from a surge of adrenaline. These physical symptoms include tremor, sweating, muscle tension, a fast heartbeat, and fast breathing. Sometimes people can also develop a dry mouth and the irritating feeling of having a lump in the throat. In severe anxiety, hyperventilation or over-breathing can lead to a fall in the concentration of carbon dioxide in the blood. This gives rise to an additional set of physical symptoms including chest discomfort, numbness or tingling in the hands and feet, dizziness, and faintness.
Chuckie: Let’s touch on Panic attacks.
Dr.E: In an anxiety disorder, exposure to the feared object or situation can trigger an intense attack of anxiety called a panic attack. During a panic attack, symptoms are so severe that the person begins to fear that she or he is suffocating, having a heart attack, losing control, or even ‘going crazy’. As a result, they may develop a fear of the panic attacks themselves, and this fear begins to trigger further panic attacks. A vicious circle takes hold, with panic attacks becoming ever more frequent and ever more severe, and even occurring completely out of the blue. This pattern of panic attacks is referred to as ‘panic disorder’, and can in some cases lead to the development of secondary agoraphobia in which the person becomes increasingly homebound so as to minimize the risk and consequences of having a panic attack. Panic attacks can occur not only in anxiety disorders, but also in depression, alcohol and drug misuse, and certain physical conditions such as hyperthyroidism. They can also sometimes occur in people who are not otherwise ill.
Chuckie: How can one manage anxiety?
Dr.E: Well Chuckie, the first step in managing anxiety is to learn as much as you can about it, as a thorough understanding of your anxiety can in itself reduce its frequency and intensity. It can be tempting to avoid any objects or situations that provoke or aggravate your anxiety, but in the long term such avoidance behavior is counterproductive. When anxiety comes, accept it. Do not try to escape from it, but simply wait for it to pass. And yes, this is easier said than done, of course, but it is important that you should try.
Dr.E: One effective method of coping with anxiety that is related to a specific object or situation is to make a list of problems to overcome. Then break each problem down into a series of tasks, and rank the tasks in order of difficulty. To take a simple example, a person with a phobia of spiders may first think about spiders, then look at pictures of spiders, then look at real spiders from a safe distance, and so on. Attempt the easiest task first and keep on returning to it day after day until you feel fairly comfortable with it. Give yourself as long as you need, then move on to the next task and do the same thing, and so on. Try to adopt a positive outlook: although the symptoms of anxiety can be terrifying, they cannot harm you.
Chuckie: Do you subscribe to using relaxation techniques, and if so what are they?
Dr.E: If a given task or situation is particularly anxiety-provoking, you can use relaxation techniques to manage your anxiety. These relaxation techniques are very similar to those used to manage stress, and can also be used for generalized anxiety, that is, anxiety that is not related to any particular object or situation, but that is free-floating and non-specific. One common and effective strategy, called ‘deep breathing’, involves modifying and regulating your breathing:
—Breathe in through your nose and hold the air in for several seconds.
—Then purse your lips and gradually let the air out, making sure that you let out as much air as you can.
—Continue doing this until you are feeling more relaxed.
A second strategy that is often used together with deep breathing involves relaxation exercises:
—Lying on your back, tighten the muscles in your toes for 10 seconds and then relax them completely.
—Do the same for your feet, ankles, and calves, gradually working your way up your body until you reach your head and neck.
Other general strategies that you can use for relaxing include listening to music, taking a hot bath, reading a book or surfing the internet, calling up or meeting a friend, practicing yoga or meditation, and playing sports. As you can see, there is no shortage of things that you can do.
Dr.E: When I come back next week for Part III we will talk about implementing simple lifestyle changes that could go along way in dealing with Anxiety.
Chuckie: Great Doc, I’m surre I speak for our passengers in saying we look forward to it.
Dr.E: Ok my good man…see you next week.
Chuckie: Thanks Doc, and I will be sure to work on those flowers for your car here on the Train.
Dr.E: You better man, I’m a lady first, Doctor second.
Well Passengers, another Therapy session in the can. I hope this helps. Please pass it along.
All Aboard! The LifeTrain!!!
October 23, 2012
All Aboard for another round of tips on the LifeTrain. Today we are once again glad to welcome aboard Attorney Ewing Carter III. Attorney Carter practices in North Carolina, in the Piedmont Triad (Greensboro, High Point and Winston Salem). You can learn more about Attorney Carter at: www.ecarterlaw.com
KICK IT (The Mood music)
Chuckie: Welcome aboard Attorney Carter.
EC III: Good to be back aboard Mr. Conductor.
Chuckie: Attorney Carter, I have this uh…friend yeah, that’s right this guy.. and he received a speeding ticket for 70mph in a 55mph zone. Should I..I mean he pay the ticket?
EC III: This friend huh? Would this friend happen to be related to my children, say as their Godfather?
Chuckie: OH! You know what, we forgot the disclaimer:
No information posted here is intended to create an attorney-client relationship. No one shall be entitled to claim detrimental reliance on any views, forms or models provided herein, or to claim any duty on our part to update the information contained here or to protect the interests of those accessing this website. Neither the receipt nor the distribution of materials, including the use of private electronic mail, constitutes the formation of an attorney-client relationship, which can be formed only upon the execution and delivery of a written retainer agreement and the satisfaction of the conditions contained therein. If you have an issue requiring legal advice, please remember, time is of the essence and to consult with a licensed attorney in your state.
EC III: Well Mr. Conductor, you or should I say this friend of yours… His decision will depend upon his individual circumstance. In most jurisdictions, if you pay the ticket you will receive both driver’s license points and insurance points. What that means is the cost of your auto insurance will increase when you renew your policy. Some insurance companies offer a “preferred rate” to drivers with a good driving history which may defray the increased cost if you are within this category. Typically, a conviction of speeding 70mph in a 55mph zone will not revoke or suspend your driver’s license unless you have accumulated too many drivers’ license points. In North Carolina if you accumulate 12 points, your privilege to drive will be suspended for one (1) year. The safe method is to contact a traffic attorney for advice. In most cases, it’s less expensive to hire an attorney when considering:
1) Your time out of work to appear in court;
2) The increased cost of your insurance over a three (3) year period versus the attorney fee, and;
3) The uncertainty of all available options in resolving the ticket, for your benefit.
Chuckie: Well sir, I’ll be sure to point him to this interview, great advice.
EC III: Not a problem. See you next week. Oh, and I’ll be sure to tell your Godchildren Uncle Chuckie said hey!
Hey passenger’s in additon to legally speaking which I purposely kept segregated for you here’s a few more tips for Tuesday.
LIFE ENHANCERS – Here on the train my main mission as your conductor is to be a Life Enhancer. Here’s the reason. “There are three kinds of people in the world today. There are ‘well-poisoners,’ who discourage you and stomp on your creativity and tell you what you can’t do. There are ‘lawn-mowers,’ people who are well-intentioned but self-absorbed; they tend to their own needs, mow their own lawns, and never leave their yards to help another person. Finally, there are ‘life-enhancers,’ people who reach out to enrich the lives of others, to lift them up and inspire them. Here on the LifeTrain wWe need to be life-enhancers, and we need to surround ourselves with life-enhancers.”
Tip 2: God doesn’t give you the people you want, He gives you the people you NEED- A tip for my sisters…
To help you, to hurt you, to leave you, to love you and to make you into the person you were meant to be.
Dear God: The lady reading this is beautiful, classy and strong, and I love her. Help her live her life to the fullest.
Please promote her and cause her to excel above her expectations. Help her shine in the darkest places where it is impossible to love. Protect her at all times, lift her up when she needs you the most, and let her know when she walks with you, She will always be safe.
That’s my prayer and tips for Tuesday. See ya next week!
All Aboard! The LifeTrain!!!
October 22, 2012
Hey Passengers, all aboard and Merry Monday!
KICK IT! (The mood music for this Merry Monday)
When I woke up this morning lying in bed, I was asking myself; What are some of the secrets of success in life for this week? Some things that can help me sail through not only this Monday but, the entire week. Guess what!!?? I found the answer right there, in my very room.
AND NOT TO FORGET THE CARPET THAT SAID…KNEEL DOWN AND PRAY.
Carry a Heart that Never Hates.
Carry a Smile that Never Fades.
Carry a Touch that Never Hurts.
I came across a terrific little self help book a few months ago called Monday Morning Choices by David Cottrell. I have read a number of similar books before and although they have all provided various levels of motivating and helpful content, they are all on a shelf or in a box in the attic unremembered. Monday Morning Choices however, has stuck with me.
Essentially the book details a series of choices that we all need to make, you guessed it, every Monday morning. There are 12 choices broken down in Personal, Action and Investment choices. I won’t summarize those for you here. but thought I would provide a few key thoughts and quotes. I hope you find these as motivating and inspirational as I have:
- My success increases or decreases in value every day on the basis of my choices
- We must believe that what we are doing is important enough to stay the course
- Unsuccessful people quit before they have a chance to succeed
- Every day, ask: Did I get any closer to accomplishing my goals today or did I lose ground?
- Placing blame only adds to our stress because it puts someone else in control of the problem
- The only difference between a rut and a grave is the depth. And, once we get in a rut we must stop digging. Intending to get out of a rut does not count.
- There are only two things in life, reasons and results and reasons simply don’t count
- Your courage is ultimately measured by how much it takes to discourage you
- You must allow your attitude to control conditions rather than letting conditions control your attitude
- If you want to be happy, put your effort into controlling the sail not the win
And a few quotes:
- You can’t build a reputation on what you are gong to do: Henry Ford
- Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there. Will Rogers
- Mistakes are easy, mistakes are inevitable but there is no mistake as great as the the mistake of not going on. William Blake
And so my fellow passengers, move forward this week no matter what.
As you depart the train and off into life, take this hug and word of encouragement:
“…Have a great week!”
All Aboard!!! The LifeTrain!