July 29, 2011
Welcome back aboard passengers. As I close out this week’s topic (Station Stop: Patience and Wisdom), I’m having one final mirror moment for the week. I say that because sometimes mirror moments turn into, “Beat yourself up to much” moments. I had some opportunities this week to realize that I still have some growth (at age 52) available to me. The thing is, I keep forgetting that I should never hold others to a standard i can’t either achieve and or maintain myself. And, I’m admitting that just when you think you have forgotten and forgiven, something comes up and brings that struggle back. Oh to be like Christ and love all. But, and I say this laughing (and digressing), nobody died and made me king, “he” just died and made me saved. Ok, so I am being a tad cryptic here so let me get to the point
Think about the people God has placed in our lives. They’re not there by accident. God brings people to us for a purpose. We should live with this awareness that, “I am here to add value to people. I am here to help them succeed.” I think we’d all be better off if we didn’t always go around thinking, “I wonder what that person can do for me. I wonder what they have to offer.” No, we should have the attitude, “What can I do for them? How can I help them come up higher? Can I teach them something I know or have experienced (eg. The LiFeTrain)? Can I connect them with someone who can help them?” We should try not to make the mistake of going through life ingrown. Instead, be a dream releasers. Use our talents, your influences and experiences, not just to accomplish our individual goals, but to help release a dream in someone else.
And in my case, I was reminded (and rightfully so) by a very wise woman that the sacrifices I made for others were NOT done to seek a future return but, rather because it was the right thing to do at the right time, period, end of story. As it was written, no mans stands so tall as when he stomps to help his fellow man.
My prayer in closing this series:
Father in heaven, thank You for equipping me to be a blessing to others. Show me ways to be a dream releaser and help others to rise up higher. Help me to use my influence to encourage others and honor You always. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.
All Aboard…The LiFeTrain!
OH! and my wish…is that I will continue to find friends like you who have told me the following…well lemme let Mike tell you…
July 26, 2011
Well passengers as previously communicated, we continue on this week’s subject, Patience and Wisdom. Today we look at “MY” tendancy to have an impatient mindset. BUT! I’m getting better after having research and made my following conclusions. Hope they help and that you will share (hit comment button).
When I am of an impatient mindset I display a tendency to question my efforts. No matter how hard I may be trying, my impatient mindset has the ability to set me up for doubt and discouragement.
I conclude that when you are impatient the following are highly possible:
- Self-Doubt – You may get upset and frustrated with yourself when things don’t go according to your plan and put yourself down in the process. No matter how much you may have already accomplished can appear minimal. And you can feel as if you’re just not good enough or you can’t measure up. Impatience reinforces doubt and false self-perception.
- Increased Stress – Stress and impatience work in unison. If you get rid of the impatience, the stress is reduced. If you get rid of stress, impatience is less visible. A stressful lifestyle can keep you locked into a tense, on edge pattern where thinking can become unclear and your health can become compromised. This mindset does not enable a patient, rational, calm temperament. Stress must be controlled in order to reflect a more patient conduct of behavior.
- Compromised Relationships – Impatient people can hardly wait for things to happen. They have the tendency to fly off the handle or act mean spirited when things don’t go their way. They can cut you off in the middle of a sentence because they can’t wait for you to say what you have to say or because they feel what they have to say is more important. This can compromise relationships, both professionally and personally.
- Poor leader/manager – Whether you manage your home, children, personal life, or a business, lack of patience can cause you to seem unapproachable. The impatient manager has little time for listening to what others have to say or to even make eye contact. They may have the tendency to overact when impatience leads to frustration, which can cause others to be fearful.
- Over-anxious. The impatient person lives sitting on the edge of the seat with trembling feet as the nervousness builds. As the anxiety builds, life can grow uncomfortable. It can become difficult to enjoy family or social time. Your sleep can become disturbed. Your appetite can diminish, or as in my case…INCREASE!
- Lost sense of balance. The impatient mindset feels they have to work harder. They stop enjoying life and put all their efforts into their projects. The time to unwind with friends or family is traded in for more work. The ole Gerrble on the wheel, running fast and getting nowhere.
- Egocentric & Arrogant – Even though the impatient person may not be egotistical by nature, it can be interpreted as just that. Impatience can be seen as arrogant, insensitive and overly demanding.
True, this fast pace world we live in (Can we say the DC area as a PRIME example!!) requires quick turnaround times with deadlines buzzing all around. Time is always of the essence. However, impatience can become counterproductive if it gets out of control. Trust your efforts and hard work by planning effectively and allowing the time for things to fall into place. Reward your efforts by taking a step back to focus on your hard work and feel the pride within. Remember success is a marathon not a sprint. The Bible says the race is not given to the swift but to those who endure. Can I get an AMEN! So Passengers, take time out and give thanks for your efforts.
All Aboard, The LifeTrain!!!
July 25, 2011
Hey passengers, welcome back aboard The Train. Listen, this week remember, two of the greatest qualities in life are:
Patience and Wisdom.
The dog in this picture definitely has both! So often patience and wisdom seem to go hand in hand, don’t they? This week on the train we are going to look at Patience and Wisdom becuase as I examine myself I find that my initial reaction to things is not always the wisest…
I’m sure that this dog would much rather be eating what’s in that bowl than standing and watching…This is a good reminder that often it’s best to procede with caution, especially when the outcome is still unclear!
Now, that was the short version. Here’s the long version of this week’s subject: Patience and Wisdon, Part I:
It is my humble opinion that to be patient means having the ability and the composure to hold back and wait for something to happen without feeling anxious, becoming irritated or panicked. In reality this is a difficult characteristic for us to adopt especially when stress has a hold. It requires enormous self-control. Although we are aware of how virtuous it is, it takes a certain level of maturity, personal growth and a well-balanced lifestyle to be able to truly achieve this. True, there are those who are genetically calmer with a more restrained personality but when life takes over even those folks can become impatient. I try to be like Spock (Star Trek) in a crisis, ie. remain calm and apply logic, remove all emotions. However, time and time again I am reminded…I truly am human!
When one is impatient they have a strong compulsion for immediate results for whatever it is they are pursuing. When you take a child to the store, they seek instant gratification almost every step of the way. How many times have you heard “I want” this or that and if they don’t get it at that moment the entire store hears about it. As adults, the drive for pursuing anything worthwhile means letting go of the “gotta have it now” mentality like we were when we were children. Success is a marathon not a sprint, it means diligently doing your part, pacing yourself, and allowing the puzzle to fall into place.
To be patient means learning how to cope with your anger and hostility. If you have a short fuse, it will blow up in your face very often. Getting to know yourself and what lights your fuse easily and having a plan for diffusing the situation when they arise helps to keep you unruffled. By diffusing your anger you can learn to be more understanding of the rhythm of the world around you and tune in to it. When you are tuned in you can better play the Game of Life with a temperament of calm and peace. This state of mind enables more clarity of thought and the ability to make more rational decisions.
To be patient doesn’t always mean I have to take a step back and slack off on my efforts. It means doing the tough work but understanding that I am not alone in pursuit of my goals. There is a world out there that consists of people who I depend on and who depend on me for progress. That means things are not always go at the pace I envision or them for that matter. Even though we can become irritated or angry and blood pressures go through the roof, things are not going to suddenly change for us always, when we want or need them to. Therefore, we must be willing to accept setbacks, human error, and disappointments along the way.
Lastly, let us look at the ultimate role model, J E S U S!
love to look at how Jesus walked the 33 years He lived on this earth. It was ALWAYS with wisdom, and I never get the sense that He was rushing and hurrying to get it all said and done…
His life and how He lived it IS our example!
Tomorrow, Part two: The Impatient Mindset…
All Aboard, The LiFeTrain!
July 22, 2011
Me: A wise sea captain caught in a tropical storm knows that if he holds his vessel on the periphery it will get hurled from one side to the other. If he can reach the eye of the storm, he will enter a place of stillness. The storm will then subside and the ship can continue its journey. Similarly, when everything around the Chuck-miester is changing in a very intense way, the best place for us to seek shelter and refuge is not on the outside, but deep within yourself chuckster, where you can get in touch with your own inner being, find strength and stability, then come out and do whatever it is I need to.
Me: That was deep…
Me: Thanks dude…now go forth and calm the sea…