November 30, 2007
And Friendships could be saved by employing this little simple procedure:
Over the years I have come to understand that patience is a virtue and a power too. Whenever I have what seems like an insurmountable task, like losing half a person (weight) it was patience that made me remember that the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step and that we get over there one step at a time. Patience taught not to rush.
I now know that there is a reason and a season for everything. Patience enables us to smile at the challenges, realizing that there is an answer to every problem. And, even though we cannot see it, there “IS” awareness that within every crisis lies an opportunity.
So fellow passengers as you venture out to face the opportunities of today remember the LiFeTrain word for the day is:
All Aboard, The LiFeTrain!
p.s. Can a brutha get a hug and some …Patience
Not to exclude the young folk ( I was chastised about that by a non-boomer who told me the train was for every age) but, here’s something for all of those who might not admit that they were born in and grew up in the sixties: CLICK …
Hey…Have a GR8T weekend!
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November 29, 2007
A strong man masters others. A truly wise man masters himself.
November 28, 2007
Once again we have reached another “hump-day”. Why not celebrate by praising the Lord at the Church.Â Tonight Deacon Dan has a VERY simple message to share…“MERRY CHRISTMAS!”.Â The message is simple, but not to be missed.Â The Deacon awaits you so look to the right of your screen, find the Church link and ENTER…See ya there!
Question: Who handles break-ups better, Women/Men?
I’m curious about something, why can’t men and women break-up amicably at the 95 percentile? I’ve noticed that most if not all relationships end with fighting. Some end with crying. Some end with sex. Some end with verbal insults (or dishes) being thrown at sound-barrier-breaking speeds. Whatever the case, break-ups can be uglier than some Dancing with the Stars performances (ya feeling me on that one?). Let’s face it: some relationships aren’t meant to be, so a break-up averts a bigger disaster. So when the Love Boat hits the iceberg, who handles it better and why?
Ok, so I’ll take first tibs on the answer: I say “Women”. My search says that men experience more depression, distress, and anxiety after break-ups than women do. We just do a much better job of hiding “Stuff”. We might like to come across as being tougher than an overcooked pork chop after a breakup, but the truth is that we’re actually more the consistency of jelly. Believe me-I talk to my boys (with the vow of secrecy, so no names please).
Here’s the thing, our reaction is to mask our true feelings. Trust me on this one, I know, we can’t deal with being hurt, or angry, or bummed. It’s not until after we get past their initial reaction of the “TOUCH GUY”, MAN UP stage that we actually mourn the loss of the relationship. I think that women are more likely to cry soon after the breakup, and they’re also more likely to use straight talk when ending a relationship, YALL can be cold blooded, but least you think I am saying that is bad, quite the contrary…get it over, forget the slow death syndrome. …So women face their relationship blues head on, and get them out of their systems earlier. Many of us menfolk tend to repress our reaction, so it lingers like basement mold. Now here’s a little something that I will share, I would not, could not cry after my divorce. I held in that stuff like a badge of honor…for well over a year…refused to think about it…and then one day (please laugh here) I just lost it…It was so dramatic that I ended up laughing because I had no idea where it came from. I was literally driving down the street…and ended up having to pull over. In retrospect it was a riot! Wasn’t at the time, but when I look back I crack up…snot and all. At first I was pissed because I pride(ed) myself on being in control of my emotions, and then I realized that if Jesus could weep, then who did I think I was…it was a moment of new found freedom, so I did my snotting and tearing till I got it all out! …whew, wish I would’ve known the therapeutic value of a good snot session sooner…LOL…Not to mention I had to detail my car afterwards…it was ugly.
Guys (the fellas) here’s something I learned that helped me.Â Women get over relationships faster than the guys because they typically have an amazing network of people to latch on to. I think that we as men depend on romantic relationships for emotional intimacy and social support, whereas women are more likely to turn to family and female friends to satisfy those needs.Â Â I remember being so embarrassed when my marriage ended that I tried to avoid folks because I didn’t want to talk about it. Whereas women have no problems talking to mothers, sisters, friends, hairdressers, cabbies, whoever.Â The more times she tells the story, the better she’s going to feel. We men on the other hand, stay clam shut. We often shrug off a break-up with a shoulder shrug, and try to convince ourselves that we’re not upset. That is, until about six months later, at 1AM after the fourth pitcher, when we confess to our buds stuff we regret admitting the next day while nursing the hang-over.
One thing we quickly realize is that the singles scene isn’t all champagne and half-naked strangers–it’s work. Instead of the exciting bar scene, we realize that no matter how bad our experiences were we realize we need intimacy not sex. I suspect that women consistently outscore men on measures of social, sexual, and intellectual intimacy–and women are often quicker than men to realize that intimacy provides the foundation of a lasting relationship, not the sexual thrills.
So my vote goes to the women on this one…sorry dudes, that’s just my one man one vote. What say you, what are your theories about who handles break-ups better?
November 27, 2007
Well fellow passengers, can you believe that the Train is officially one year old this month! Yep, the LiFeTrain officially pulled out of the station one year ago this month! I have to say, for me it has been a tremendous ride (experience). I have made so many new friends that I just wanted to say today…simply “Thank you all”.
For you, my fellow passengers, my new and old friends:
A friend, a real friend, someone you love and trust, is going to tell you all the things you do not want to know about yourself. A friend tells you hen you are right and helps you understand how you could be wrong. A friend will yell and scream, but when you need him, he is there. A friend is someone you cannot and do not lie to. She knows your secrets and holds them in confidence. A friend never judges, yet will let you know when you are doing it â€œagain.â€ A friend sees your mistakes and, without covering them up, steers you in another direction. A friend pushes you, shoves you and drives you real hard. Just when you think you are about to break, he whips out the Band-aids, patches you up and starts pushing again. A friend always says things that make no sense until you hear a stranger say the same thing. A friend is someone you can look at and see yourself and know you are really going to be all right.
2 day…When I see my friend, I see myself…
All Aboard, The LiFeTrain!
November 26, 2007
Make mine a Starbucks holiday blend with a dash of cinnamon and a double shot. I would opt for one of their blueberry muffins but I “REALLY” over-did it this past weekend, so I’ll just add an extra pack of the pink stuff and be happy.
Hey Passengers let’s take a vote. Should Imus make a media comeback to radio & TV airwaves? I want to know what you really think. Can you truly be objective on this subject? Inquiring minds want to know so let’s get this party started:
1) Should Imus make a media comeback to radio & TV airwaves?
2) What is your overall opinion of Don Imus?
3) Do you believe Imus’ comments about the Rutger’s basketball team were racist or simply bad humor?
4) Do you believe MSNBC overreacted by firing Imus?
5) Should CBS have fired Imus from his radio show?
6) Do you believe Al Sharpton has any credibility attacking Imus?
Hey Passengers…wonder if we can get the greeting right this Monday? Altogether now: “MERRY MONDAY!”. Yo, at a minimum, if you are reading this you are ALIVE — Ok! And…if you need a little reminder as we grudgingly settle into another week after a long holiday, just remember:
Psalm 23 (for work)
The Lord is my real boss, and I shall not want. He gives me peace,
when chaos is all around me. He gently reminds me to pray and do all
things without murmuring and complaining.
He reminds me that he is my source and not my job. He restores my
sanity everyday and guides my decisions that I might honor him in all
that I do.
Even though I face absurd amounts o f e-mails, system crashes,
unrealistic deadlines, budget cutbacks, gossiping co-workers,
discriminating supervisors and an aging body that doesn’t cooperate
every morning, I still will not stop— for He is with me! His presence,
His peace, and His power will see me through.
He raises me up, even when they fail to promote me. He claims me as
His own, even when the company threatens to let me go. His Faithfulness
and love is better than any bonus check.
His retirement plan beats every 401k there is!
When it’s all said and done, I’ll be working for Him a whole lot
longer and for that, I WILL BLESS HIS HOLY NAME.
Read all abut it in today’s edition of the “LiFeTrain Daily News”.Â CLICK …