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I was in conversation with a friend recently with Mother Teresa being the predominant subject of our talk. I mentioned that I liked quoting her. I mentioned that for me the common theme of Mother Teresa words reflect her work with the lonely, the sick, the dying and the destitute. Her unending love came through in her work and in her words.
She was forever compassionate towards the loneliness felt by “wealthy” people, who on the surface had it all. She was also very concerned about the breakdown of families.
Here is a collection of her words which say it all:
Not a Sermon…Just a Thought…
Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.
I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.
If we want a love message to be heard, it has got to be sent out. To keep a lamp burning, we have to keep putting oil in it.
Do not think that love, in order to be genuine, has to be extraordinary. What we need is to love without getting tired.
Everybody today seems to be in such a terrible rush, anxious for greater developments and greater riches and so on, so that children have very little time for their parents, parents have very little time for each other, and in the home begins the disruption of peace of the world.
It is easy to love the people far away. It is not always easy to love those close to us. It is easier to give a cup of rice to relieve hunger than to relieve the loneliness and pain of someone unloved in our own home. Bring love into your home for this is where our love for each other must start.
If you can’t feed a hundred people, then feed just one.
Even the rich are hungry for love, for being cared for, for being wanted, for having someone to call their own.
Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.
Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.
Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do… but how much love we put in that action.
Peace begins with a smile.
Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.
The biggest disease today is not leprosy or tuberculosis, but rather the feeling of being unwanted.
The most terrible poverty is loneliness and the feeling of being unloved.
Some people come into your life as a Blessing…Others as a Lesson… …Give love
The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread.
The success of love is in the loving – it is not in the result of loving. Of course it is natural in love to want the best for the other person, but whether it turns out that way or not does not determine the value of what we have done.
There is more hunger in the world for love and appreciation in this world than for bread. We think sometimes that poverty is only being hungry, naked and homeless. The poverty of being unwanted, unloved and uncared for is the greatest poverty. We must start in our own homes to remedy this kind of poverty.
Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat.
Good works are links that form a chain of love.
In this life we cannot do great things. We can only do small things with great love.
Mother Teresa’s message of love and hope lives on – it is now up to all of us to continue her work and make the world a better place.
Hey passengers here we go with another session with The Attorney, Ewing Carter III. Those of you facing elder care issue will be especially interested in today’s conversation So, with no further ado let’s head back to the Law car and pick Mr. Carter’s brain.
Enjoy the LifeTrain Radio while you peruse this and other “blog” articles!
Chuckie: Attorney Carter! Greetings Sir!
EC III: Hey Chuckie, come on in and sit a spell.
Chuckie: Sir, our passengers really want to know, who was one of the baddest football players ever to come out of Springfield South High School?
A couple of Wildcats (CPD & EC III
EC III: Me.
Chuckie: GONG! Wrong answer. I’ll give you another try. Who was the Captain of your senior year football team.
EC II: Look man, “you” …Ok? Now what is the question, I’m sure the passenger’s time is just as valuable as mine.
Chuckie: Ok, OK, you lawyers and money.
Chuckie: Today’s question chosen of a great many good questions from our loyal passengers is this: My elderly mother is confined to a wheelchair and can’t get around. I’m
the only one who helps her. My brothers live in another state and have their own lives with their families. Can I get something from the court that allows me to take care of her daily needs? I’m fearful that she’s beginning to lose her memory. What can I do?
EC III: If your mother is of “sound mind” which means that her faculties of perception and judgment are not impaired by any mental disorder, then, executing a Power of Attorney would be
helpful in this situation. Because your mother’s mobility is limited, your acting as her attorney- in- fact will enable her to transact her business by and through you. In most cases a General
Durable Power of Attorney is preferred because it remains in effect until revoked and canceled by a subsequent instrument in writing. Also, this power of attorney does not terminate upon disability, incompetence, or incapacity. Basically, your mother’s power of attorney giving you authority to act in her stead is enforceable until her death, or until she revokes it.
However, if your mother now suffers from Alzheimer’s disease or any associated form of dementia, then she Does not possess the capacity to give power of attorney. Your mother’s primary physician can provide you an Opinion Letter concerning her mental capacity. Once you have the letter, you should file a petition to find her incompetent by the Courts. Once the Petition is filed and a Hearing scheduled, a determination of competency will be made by the Clerk of Courts. If and when, she is adjudicated incompetent, the Courts will: 1) appoint someone as Guardian of her Person, and 2) appoint someone Guardian of her Estate. This can be the same person or entity, or two different persons or entities. The Guardian of the Person makes decisions concerning health care, housing, daily activities, etc. The Guardian of the Estate makes all financial decisions concerning the person. As always mentioned, consult with an attorney in your locale for specific advice. I hope that helps.
Chuckie: Thanks Attorney Carter, good stuff…as usual. Passengers, for more on this debilitating disease check out my upcoming article with Dr. Dee PhD.
Chuckie: You know Mr. Carter, this was another great session. I’ve now figured out that you are a much better lawyer than a football player.
EC III: Yep…and you are a much better water boy than golfer.
Chuckie: See you on the links dude! And now passengers, for your favorite part of “Legally Speaking!”
“Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, ‘I will try again tomorrow.’” ~Mary Anne Radmacher
Carefully, I wrote my New Year’s Resolutions neatly and secretly in my PC journal, which chronicled the ups and downs of the past years of my life. After looking back over my notes I truly believe there isn’t one reality show on TV now that could top this. My 2013, 12, 11, 10 – heck back to 1993…well you just couldn’t make this stuff up….WHEW! Anyway as Forrest would say:
Well passengers…Here’s this week’s inaugural ride…
whether they’re made on the first of January or any day of the year, are refreshing. It’s a chance to start again—the closest you can get to a “redo” of the past.
In prior years, I made resolutions that were destined to fail. Read one book per week. Write a book. Learn to step.
It wasn’t that the previous resolutions were bad. Rather, I had failed to put any sort of plan in place to help me succeed. I only had a lofty goal, not steps laid out to get me from where I was standing to where I wanted to be.
But this year, I need change. I need a fresh start. I don’t need the seemingly constant stress and the disappointment that plagued me last year to carry over into 2014.
So my resolutions are as succinct as these words: Be happy. Find Peace…and maybe Find love.
And unlike prior years, I’m making a plan for how to transform my resolutions into my life. It felt weird trying to develop a way to be happy. But this year has to be different, and if planning is required, then plan I will. And hey, who says resolutions have to be made on January first?
The plan? Take steps. And keep taking steps—don’t freeze in place.
I’m taking steps. I’m going to embrace therapy..again.
And I’m going to rid the room of that BIG WHITE Elephant on the living room couch who’s whispering… Yo Chuck-miester what if the “Be happy” thing doesn’t work out?
What if I make all these changes and I don’t end up happy?
What if the decisions I make are wrong…actually wrong? Charlotte is a diffrent place from the DC Beltway life.
What if life is still really stressful and exhausting?
It took me a while to realize what all the what-ifs were really disguising. Superficially, the panic appeared to be the fear of not achieving the resolution.
In reality, though, the fear of not achieving the resolution was a cover-up for the fear of failing as a person. What if I took all the steps to create the life I wanted and it didn’t work out? Would I be left with an unfilled life on top of an unfilled resolution?
Everyone talks about how going after what you truly want takes hard work and perseverance. Few people mention the courage required. It takes courage to forge your own path in a forest overgrown with what-ifs and brimming with the beast of society’s potential judgment.
Being honest with yourself about what you want, whether it’s happiness, a new job, or significant other, is scary. When carving your own path, you don’t know what’s in store for you ahead.
I came close to letting the fear of what-ifs consume me and abandoning my goals along with the little progress I had made in the last few months.
Fittingly, however, the one thing that overpowered all the what-ifs swirling in my thoughts was one single what-if: What if it all worked out?
What if “WE” succeeded in creating the life we envision? It doesn’t need to be a perfect life; every life has a few rough spots or bruises.
And for me that hope, that possibility, that single gnawing question is enough for me to take the leap of faith and go forward with my goals.
That isn’t to say that I now believe unequivocally that my resolution will work out and every moment of my life will be Kodak-worthy. Rather, it’s to say that I now counter each doubt that creeps into my mind with the single rebuke: What if this all works out?
Focusing on the positives of your goal or resolution is a much more powerful motivator than concentrating on the negatives.
So passengers…this week let us acknowledge the negatives as potential pitfalls to be aware of, but then counter them with positives. Truly immerse yourself in the positive potential of success.
If your thoughts of doubt are enough to stop you, then your positive thoughts are enough to help you succeed.
Hey passengers as part of the LifeTrain’s legal tips segment we are once again honored to have Attorney Ewing Carter III along for today’s ride. Today we will discuss a worker’s compensation question. Let’s head on back to the Legal car and see if we can get the Attorney to help us out.
Chuckie: Good day sir, welcome back aboard.
EC III: Thanks Mr. Conductor, glad to be back aboard.
Chuckie: Sir, I pulled this question out of our ever growing pool. The passenger wrote: I currently work full-time for a major clothing retailer as an Area Supervisor. Last week while helping to
put out some seasonal clothing, I injured my right shoulder lifting a box. The Personnel Mgr. told me to go to the company doctor and get checked out. The doctor took me out of work and ordered an MRI scan of my shoulder. The appointment for the scan is next Tuesday. By next Tuesday I will have been out of work for 11 days. I like and need my job and don’t want to be terminated because of absences. Now my fingers are going numb? What should I do?
EC III: Well passenger, Your injury is covered by workers compensation law. Every state has a Workers Compensation Act that requires all employers with three (3) or more employees to carry workers compensation coverage for employees injured during the course of their employment. Generally, the employer directs the employee’s medical treatment and pays all the bills. When a person is out of work under doctor’s orders for at least seven (7) consecutive days or twenty-one (21) days intermittently, then the employer’s insurance will pay the injured employee 66% or 2/3 of their weekly wage. If, the employer seeks to terminate an injured worker for whatever reason (job layoffs, violations of company policy, etc.), the worker’s compensation benefits are unaffected.
My advice is for you to seek legal counsel because: 1) You are not sure the seriousness of your injury and, 2) You don’t know how long you will be out of work. Counsel can inform you
throughout the entire process in order to ease your worries. Most importantly, you don’t pay any upfront money to your attorney. Also, an added benefit to you is that the
Industrial Commission, which is the governing body over work-related injuries, oversees this entire process. The Commission examines the actions of the employer as well as any attorneys involved for fairness.
Chuckie: Is there a “Pain and Suffering” component to her claim? EC III: Good question Chuck, no there is no “pain and suffering” component in this claim. Any compensation awarded to the passenger above paying their medical bills and the 2/3rds wage payment (“temporary total disability” money), will be based on a disability rating given by their primary doctor, if applicable.
EC III: How’s that Mr. Conductor, did I make sense. Chuckie: Good stuff sir. I just happen to know this particular passenger personally so i will get back to you. But, she’s pretty sharp so I am sure you covered this thoroughly enough for her.
Chuckie: Well passengers that’s it for this week’s legally speaking segment. If you would like to submit a question for Attorney Carter just drop it here on the Train (see comments section). Also, Attorney Carter can be reached via his website:http://www.ecarterlaw.com/
I refuse to call myself an African American. He gave his life, so that I could vote….in America, eat at lunch counters…in America, walk into the front door of Malls…in America, sit anywhere there is an open seat in the public transit system…in America. I am a Christian, black man born …in America and most of all, I call myself, what I am, an American! Thank you Dr. King!
Kick it! The Mood…The Music…
Martin Luther King, Jr., was born on January 15, 1929, in Atlanta, Georgia. He was the son of Reverend Martin Luther King, Sr. and Alberta Williams King. Although Dr. King’s name was mistakenly recorded as “Michael King” on his birth certificate, this was not discovered until 1934, when his father applied for a passport. He had an older sister, Willie Christine (September 11, 1927) and a younger brother, Alfred Daniel (July 30, 1930 â€“ July 1, 1969). King sang with his church choir at the 1939 Atlanta premiere of the movie Gone with the Wind. He entered Morehouse College at age fifteen, skipping his ninth and twelfth high school grades without formally graduating. In 1948, he graduated from Morehouse with a Bachelor of Arts (B.A.) degree in sociology, and enrolled in Crozer Theological Seminary in Chester, Pennsylvania, and graduated with a Bachelor of Divinity (B.D.) degree in 1951. In September 1951, King began doctoral studies in systematic theology at Boston University and received his Doctor of Philosophy (Ph.D.) on June 5, 1955 (but see the Plagiarism section for controversy regarding this degree).
In 1953, at age 24, King became pastor of the Dexter Avenue Baptist Church in Montgomery, Alabama. On December 1,
1955, Rosa Parks was arrested for refusing to comply with the Jim Crow laws that required her to give up her seat to a white man. The Montgomery Bus Boycott, urged and planned by E. D. Nixon (head of the Montgomery NAACP chapter and a member of the Brotherhood of Sleeping Car Porters) and led by King, soon followed. (In March 1955, a 15 year old school girl, Claudette Colvin, suffered the same fate, but King did not become involved.) The boycott lasted for 381 days, the situation becoming so tense that King’s house was bombed. King was arrested during this campaign, which ended with a United States Supreme Court decision outlawing racial segregation on all public transport.
King was instrumental in the founding of the Southern Christian Leadership Conference (SCLC) in 1957, a group created to harness the moral authority and organizing power of black churches to conduct non-violent protests in the service of civil rights reform. King continued to dominate the organization. King was an adherent of the philosophies of nonviolent civil disobedience as described in Henry David Thoreau’s essay of the same name, and used successfully in India by Mohandas “Mahatma” Gandhi. King applied this philosophy to the protests organized by the SCLC. In 1959, he wrote The Measure of A Man, from which the piece What is Man?, an attempt to sketch the optimal political, social, and economic structure of society, is derived.
Inspired by Mahatma Gandhi’s success with non-violent activism, he visited the Gandhi family in India in 1959, with assistance from the Quaker group the American Friends Service Committee (AFSC) and the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People (NAACP). The trip to India affected King in a profound way, deepening his understanding of nonviolent resistance and his commitment to Americaâ€™s struggle for civil rights. In a radio address made during his final evening in India, King reflected, â€œSince being in India, I am more convinced than ever before that the method of nonviolent resistance is the most potent weapon available to oppressed people in their struggle for justice and human dignity. In a real sense, Mahatma Gandhi embodied in his life certain universal principles that are inherent in the moral structure of the universe, and these principles are as inescapable as the law of gravitation.â€
The FBI began wiretapping King in 1961, fearing that Communists were trying to infiltrate the Civil Rights Movement, but when no such evidence emerged, the bureau used the incidental details caught on tape over six years in attempts to force King out of the preeminent leadership position.
King correctly recognized that organized, nonviolent protest against the system of southern segregation known as Jim Crow laws would lead to extensive media coverage of the struggle for black equality and voting rights. Journalistic accounts and televised footage of the daily deprivation and indignities suffered by southern blacks, and of segregationist violence and harassment of civil rights workers and marchers, produced a wave of sympathetic public opinion that made the Civil Rights Movement the single most important issue in American politics in the early 1960s.
King organized and led marches for blacks’ right to vote, desegregation, labor rights and other basic civil rights. Most of these rights were successfully enacted into United States law with the passage of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 and the Voting Rights Act of 1965.
King and the SCLC applied the principles of nonviolent protest with great success by strategically choosing the method of protest and the places in which protests were carried out in often dramatic stand-offs with segregationist authorities. Sometimes these confrontations turned violent. King and the SCLC were instrumental in the unsuccessful Albany Movement in Albany, Georgia, in 1961 and 1962, where divisions within the black community and the canny, low-key response by local government defeated efforts; in the Birmingham protests in the summer of 1963; and in the protest in St. Augustine, Florida, in 1964. King and the SCLC joined forces with the Student Nonviolent Coordinating Committee (SNCC) in Selma, Alabama, in December 1964, where SNCC had been working on voter registration for several months.
King, representing SCLC, was among the leaders of the so-called “Big Six” civil rights organizations who were instrumental in the organization of the March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom in 1963. The other leaders and organizations comprising the Big Six were: Roy Wilkins, NAACP; Whitney Young, Jr., Urban League; A. Philip Randolph, Brotherhood of Sleeping Car Porters; John Lewis, SNCC; and James Farmer of the Congress of Racial Equality (CORE). The primary logistical and strategic organizer was King’s colleague Bayard Rustin. For King, this role was another which courted controversy, since he was one of the key figures who acceded to the wishes of President John F. Kennedy in changing the focus of the march. Kennedy initially opposed the march outright, because he was concerned it would negatively impact the drive for passage of civil rights legislation, but the organizers were firm that the march would proceed.
In late March 1968, King went to Memphis, Tennessee in support of the black sanitary public works employees, represented by AFSCME Local 1733, who had been on strike since March 12 for higher wages and better treatment. (For example, African American workers, unlike white workers, were not paid when sent home because of inclement weather.)
On April 3, King returned to Memphis and addressed a rally, delivering his “I’ve been to the Mountaintop” address at Mason Temple (Church of God in Christ, Inc. – World Headquarters). King’s flight to Memphis had been delayed by a bomb threat against his plane. In the close of the last speech of his career, in reference to the bomb threat, King said the following:
â€œ And then I got to Memphis. And some began to say the threats, or talk about the threats that were out. What would happen to me from some of our sick white brothers?
Well, I don’t know what will happen now. We’ve got some difficult days ahead. But it doesn’t matter with me now. Because I’ve been to the mountaintop. And I don’t mind. Like anybody, I would like to live a long life. Longevity has its place. But I’m not concerned about that now. I just want to do God’s will. And He’s allowed me to go up to the mountain. And I’ve looked over. And I’ve seen the promised land. I may not get there with you. But I want you to know tonight, that we, as a people, will get to the promised land. And I’m happy, tonight. I’m not worried about anything. I’m not fearing any man. Mine eyes have seen the glory of the coming of the Lord. â€
King was booked in room 306 at the Lorraine Motel, owned by Walter Bailey, in Memphis. Reverend Ralph Abernathy, King’s close friend and colleague who was present at the assassination, swore under oath to the HSCA that King and his entourage stayed at room 306 at the Lorraine Motel so often it was known as the ‘King-Abernathy suite.’ While standing on the motel’s 2nd floor balcony, King was shot at 6:01 p.m. April 4, 1968. The bullet entered through his right cheek smashing his jaw and then traveling down his spinal cord before lodging in his shoulder. According to biographer Taylor Branch, King’s last words on the balcony were to musician Ben Branch (no relation to Taylor Branch) who was scheduled to perform that night at an event King was attending: “Ben, make sure you play Take My Hand, Precious Lord in the meeting tonight. Play it real pretty.” Friends inside the motel room heard the shots and ran to the balcony to find King on the ground. Local Rev. Samuel “Billy” Kyles, whose house King was on his way to, remembers that upon seeing King go down he ran into a hotel room to call an ambulance. Nobody was on the switchboard, so Kyles ran back out and yelled to the police to get one on their radios. It was later revealed that the hotel switchboard operator, upon seeing King shot, had had a fatal heart attack and could not operate the phones. King was pronounced dead at St. Joseph’s Hospital at 7:05 p.m. The assassination led to a nationwide wave of riots in more than 60 cities.
Five days later, President Lyndon B. Johnson declared a national day of mourning for the lost civil rights leader. A crowd of 300,000 attended his funeral that same day. Vice-President Hubert Humphrey attended on behalf of Lyndon B. Johnson, who was holding a meeting on the Vietnam War at Camp David. (There were fears that Johnson might be hit with protests and abuses over the war if he attended.) At his widow’s request, King eulogized himself: his last sermon at Ebenezer Baptist Church, a recording of his famous ‘Drum Major’ sermon, given on February 4, 1968, was played at the funeral. In that sermon he makes a request that at his funeral no mention of his awards and honors be made, but that it be said that he tried to “feed the hungry”, “clothe the naked”, “be right on the [Vietnam] war question”, and “love and serve humanity”. Per King’s request, his good friend Mahalia Jackson sang his favorite hymn, “Take My hand, Precious Lord” at his funeral.
All Aboard! Happy New Year! Good-bye 2014…Hello 2015. Well Passengers we are stepping into a new era here on the Train for 2015. I am so pleased to announce the kick-off of the LifeTrain Radio Station! Typically, at this point I would say “KICK IT!” and then add a clip for you to enjoy the post with a musical selection. But, now we have radio! Just click the broadcast button located on the right of the homepage here.
This year let us all strive to be better us! Thank you for riding along with me in 2014! Those of us who remain in this thing called life…moving on down the tracks, let us work together this year in peace and harmony.
I look forward to riding with each and every one of you here on the LifeTrain in 2015! Let me once again share part of the story behind the LifeTrain:
Hey Passengers we need to visit with our LifeTrain resident Lawyer Attorney Ewing Carter III (www.ecarterlaw.com)! ANd just what train do you know of that has its own legal car! Boy I tell you, I just love being the conductor of this here Train! Today we find out if Attorney EC III can save Christmas! All Aboard!
YOUR CONDUCTOR OVER THE INTERCOM: ATTENTION PASSENGERS! ATTENTION PASSENGERS! SANTA MAY BE A LITTLE DELAYED THIS YEAR UNLESS ATTORNEY CARTER CAN GET HIM OFF! IT SEEMS THE SLEIGH WAS PULLED OVER AND…WELL…PLEASE DIRECT YOUR ATTENTION TO THE LIFETRAIN VIDEO DISPLAY. …AND YOU WILL UNDERSTAND WHY WE ARE RUNNING THIS POST AGAIN IN HOPES THAT NO ONE WILL NEED TO “LEGALLY SPEAK!”.
Well, the holiday season is upon us. Christmas, and the upcoming New Year calls for thanksgiving for all the many blessings bestowed upon us, a celebration of the birth of Christ, and a reflection on the significant events in our lives that occurred the past twelve months. For many folks that means celebrating! Office parties, family get-togethers, social outings, etc. And ok, so let’s not ignore that white elephant in the legal car, Drinking and driving! This is especially high during these times, thus the reason for this discussion.
Chuckie: Attorney Ewing Carter III, good day my good man.
EC III: You trippin…as usual.
Chuckie: What for-uth does thine sayth thine kind and knowledgeable sir?
Ewing: Guess you want one of these snickers huh? [passing me a snickers from the bowl on his desk]
Chuckie: Well, it will transform me back to the athlete you wish you could’ve been!
EC III: In your dreams dude, now what’s the question?
Chuckie: Well this holiday when you are in the Lexus driving home after “The Law office of Ewing Carter III annual holiday party, how will the law know you’ve had too much to drink before you drive?
EC III: Well first of all I will be glad when that snickers kicks in Dumb Dumb! I can assure you I will be the last person on earth caught drinking and driving. Trust me, as part of my job I see the repercussions up close and in person. Anyway, In most all 50 states, if a person is operating a motor vehicle and their blood alcohol content (BAC) is .08 or higher, they can be charged with driving while impaired (DWI) / driving under the influence (DUI). A key consideration is that you can be impaired by any substance you ingest (alcohol, illegal drugs, and even prescription drugs). Generally, the “Officer of the Peace ,“ (policeman, Sheriff, DMV officer, Park Ranger, etc.) can make the decision to stop and investigate a person, if he/she has a “reasonable suspicion” to believe that the person is driving while subject to an impairing substance. Tell-tale signs are: weaving, speeding, driving too slowly, making too wide of a turn, just to name a few.
Chuckie: What should I do or say if I am stopped for DWI?
EC III: Well do what you did the last time, start crying and call me.
EC III: Seriously though, be as cooperative as possible. The officer will ask for your driver’s license and vehicle registration. He will be developing an opinion about “you”
to determine to whether further investigation is warranted. Noted signs of impairment are: slurred speech, obvious odor of alcohol, disheveled clothing, and bloodshot eyes.
Chuckie: If the officer asks me to take a breathalyzer test, should I comply, or refuse?
EC III: The decision is totally yours to make. However, there are some facts you should consider:
1. Driving is a privilege, and not a constitutional right.
2. Because driving is a privilege, the Department of Motor Vehicles (DMV) determines under what circumstance a person can operate a motor vehicle along the road and highways of their state.
3. If you decide to refuse to take the breath test, the DMV will revoke your privilege to drive for a certain period of time. This revocation is generally for one (1) year. However, obtaining a Driving Privilege in order to drive back and forth to work can be obtained from the Court. In North Carolina, if you refuse the breath test, there is a 6-month waiting period before becoming eligible for the Driving Privilege. Conversely, if you take the test, and your BAC in not excessive (.14 or lower), then there is no waiting period for the Driving Privilege.
Chuckie: Whew, I guess the best thing is just not go there in the first place.
EC III: Let me record this time and date. The first time you ever said something that made sense.
Chuckie: I’m bout to roll the credits, we taking this to the Racket ball court sucka!
EC III: I’ll drive, you’ve obviously been drinking!
ATTENTION PASSENGERS…WE WILL SOON SEE IF THE ATTORNEY CAN SAVE CHRISTMAS!!!
Merry Christmas Passengers! All Aboard! Let the Good Times Roll!
All Aboard! Welcome back to the Train, The LifeTrain. As you board today I do the usual, hand you a business card to start your ride. It reads:
Love is the ocean which accepts all manner of rivers without questioning their origin.
My friend, Dr. E !
I want to re-introduce you to one of my many MIND Doctor friends, Dr. Emily Hath PhD. Dr. E as I affectionately call her, and I know that there are people that tend to be more prone to the holiday blues. People who have lost a loved one may be flooded with unresolved grief and painful memories of a once joyful time of year. For people with strained relationships with family members, this time of year can be filled with stress and conflict. Some people are not able to join their families for the holidays, which can bring on feelings of guilt and loneliness. And for people and families that are struggling financially, stretching the wallet or debt even more can trigger feelings of shame and depression.
For many people, the next 6 weeks are often filled with anything but holiday cheer.
So, each year the good Doc and I sit down over a cup of tea and discuss this very issue. If you’re feeling stressed or anxious during the upcoming holidays, make the time to check in with yourself. Putting on a happy face to “get through the holidays” isn’t doing anyone any favors, especially not for you. If this time of year is usually more stressful than festive, figure out what you need to do to alleviate that stress and make some changes. Over the next few Weeks Dr. Hath and I will be here to offer tips so hop bak aboard and listen to what we discuss. Listen in as we start our initial discussions about dealing with the holidays.
Chuckie: Dr E!
Dr.E: My main man, Chuckie the conductor!
Chuckie: You knows I loves me some Dr.E!
DrE: And you knows I loves me some Chuckie!
Chuckie: Dr.E A lot of people get anxious or sad around the holidays. For some people, the idea of getting together with family is stressful. I actually talked with a very dear friend last week who lamented about that very same thing. Having to put on a game face for the holidays. For others, having no family to share the holidays with is stressful. And this year in particular, many people have lost their jobs and their homes! So, Doc what can we offer to our ridership that may help restore true holiday cheer?
Dr.E: Well Chuckie, unfortunately we just might not be able to cheer up anyone who has lost so much, but if some of our riders have the garden variety seasonal blues, here are 5 ideas I think we should offer up:
If you are feeling sorry for yourself because everyone has a significant other and you don’t, get out your phone and call or text some old high school friends — people you are already in touch with through Facebook or long-lost friends — just to say hello and wish them happy holidays. They will feel great that you thought about them during this season and you, in turn, will feel appreciated and connected.
You can use use the holidays as an excuse to contact a lost love, too. Have you always thought about contacting a “special someone,” but were afraid to? Send a simple e-card, and maybe add, “Thinking of you this holiday season and wondering how you are doing. I’d enjoy hearing from you when you get a moment.” If your old flame responds with an email, there you go! If you get no response, it was only a generic e-card so you won’t feel foolish about the contact.
Some people won’t respond because they are married, not because they aren’t interested in you, so don’t assume! And your lost love may surprise you and write later. But never do this if you are married; you have no idea how devastating these reconnections can be for you, a lost love, and your families!
Attending a holiday party? Worried about greeting guests you haven’t seen in a long time? Break the ice before you get together. Send some cute e-cards (or even snail mail cards, which can be more impressive to some recipients): “Looking forward to seeing you again!” That will make them feel special, so by the time they arrive, it will feel like you were together just yesterday.
This is a good time to heal an old rift. Is there someone you were once close to (a former friend, ex-spouse, coworker, estranged relative)? The holiday season is a great time to heal old wounds. Send some cookies or a small
box of candy — aren’t Internet gift sites convenient? — with a simply note that says, “It’s been a long time. Let’s put the past behind us. Happy holidays.”
A sure way to feel better is to stop thinking about yourself and go out and do some volunteer work. Right now. Help your elder neighbor with the yard work, serve meals at your local food shelter, go to a park and feed the ducks. Leaving your own concerns and thinking of others is a real day brightener. We will delve deeper on a more clinical level but for now think about giving to get through the holidays.
Do you see the pattern here my man?: Reach out to people!
DrE: Merry Christmas Chuckie and same to the passengers on this Train!
Hey fellow passengers, may I be the first to give you a Christmas gift…this story before you depart…A very DEEP story for you! May it touch and enlighten the inner most you…
Kick the mood (Music)
A man is driving down the road and breaks down near a monastery. He goes to the monastery, knocks on the door, and says, My car broke down. Do you think I could stay the night?
The monks graciously accept him, feed him dinner, and even fix his car. As the man tries to fall asleep, he hears a strange sound; a sound like no other that he has ever heard. The next morning, he asks the monks what the sound was, but they say, We can’t tell you. You’re not a monk..
The man is disappointed but thanks them anyway and goes about his merry way. Some years later, the same man breaks down in front of the same m onastery.
The monks again accept him, feed him, and even fix his car.
That night, he hears the same strange mesmerizing sound that he had heard years earlier.
The next morning, he asks what the sound was, but the monks reply,
We can’t tell you. You’re not a monk.
The man says, All right, all right. I’m dying to know.
If the only way I can find out what that sound was, is to become a monk, how do I become a monk?
The monks reply, you must travel the earth and tell us how many blades of grass there are and the exact number of sand pebbles. When you find these numbers, you will become a monk.
The man sets about his task. Some forty-five years later, he returns and knocks on the door of the monastery. He says, I have traveled the earth and devoted my life to the task demanded and have found what you had asked for. There are 371,145,236,284,232 blades of grass and 231,281,219,999,129,382 sand pebbles on the earth.
The monks reply, Congratulations, you are correct and now you are a monk.
We shall now show you the way to the sound.
The monks lead the man to a wooden door, where the head monk says, the sound is behind that door.
The man reaches for the knob, but the door is locked. He asks, May I have the key?
The monks give him the key, and he opens the door.
Behind the wooden door is another door made of stone. The man requests the key to the stone door.
The monks give him the key, and he opens it, only to find a door made of ruby. He demands another key from the monks, who provide it. Behind that door is another door, this one made of sapphire. And so it went until the man had gone through doors of emerald,…
…silver, topaz, and amethyst.
Finally, the monks say, This is the key to the last door.
The man is relieved to no end. He unlocks the door, turns the knob, and behind that door he is astonished to find the source of that strange sound. It is truly an amazing and unbelievable sight
… Sorry Passengers But, I can’t tell you what it is because you’re passengers not monks. All Aboard, The LifeTrain!!!
Hey Yo! There’s no profanity allowed on this here train!
“Celebrate endings, for they precede new beginnings.” ~Jonathan Lockwood Huie
All Aboard! Well passengers, enjoy the ride by reading on…KICK IT (The mood, the music…like a glass of wine with your meal)
We often think of quitting as failure. We commend people for carrying on when times get rough. The heroes in our action movies don’t just give up when things get difficult. When was the last time you saw Steven Seagal walk away from a fight?
As the saying goes, “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.” Society expects us to fight back and battle on.
But sometimes, quitting is most definitely the right thing to do.
Sometimes, it’s the best option. A lot of people assume that it’s the easy thing to do—that only defeatists and good-for-nothin’ drop outs would even consider such a “cop-out.” This is not the case.
I learned this myself when I finally make that looming decision to end unhealthy relationships.” Even the words sound negative, as if I’ve fallen away from society, failing to meet my expectations. But I don’t see my decision as a negative thing at all, and oftentimes it wasn’t the easy thing to do.
I remember feeling imprisoned at times. The longer I stayed, the more trapped I felt.
I could have continued going against my instincts; it would have been easier to sail along, ignoring my unhappiness for a few more years instead of stepping out into the world alone. But I knew in my gut that the situation at the time wasn’t right for me, and that I needed something new. So I left, and no matter what friends, family, or acquaintances thought the decision, I know it was the right choice for me.
It doesn’t mean I was weak; it means I was brave enough to change what wasn’t right. Sometimes you feel in your gut that the path you thought you were meant to take is wrong for you. It takes a lot of courage to admit that, even to yourself, let alone to the rest of the world. Sometimes you have to leave that path and find a new one. Or, if there is no new path to be found, create a new one. This can apply to so many aspects of life—home, work, education, family, friends, relationships, and habits.
I’m not saying that if something doesn’t feel right or instantly work out that you should give up on it straight away. Carrying on is also brave and can be the right decision. But if you know that quitting something is the right thing to do, don’t be afraid to do so because of what others might think.
Make a change in your life if you know you need to…
We only have a limited amount of time and yet a limitless number of different paths to go down. Don’t waste your time on one that feels wrong, on something that is compromising your happiness. Find something new. We all quit something at some point, so don’t fear the stigma. Do what brings you happiness. Embrace the change.
“There are things known and there are things unknown, and in between are the doors.” ~Aldous Huxley.
All Aboard! And “MERRY MONDAY” Before we pull out of the station and head on down these tracks called Life, let’s pull the Whistle as a signal to say thanks to all our many veterans who gave service to our country….
As is customery here on the Train, I, your faithful ocndutor hand you a business card . it reads:
“A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” (Proverbs 17:22, ESV)
Kick it (The mood, the Music)
Passengers, throughout life, there will always be something that will try to take our joy. If it’s not a grumpy sales person, it’s a family member aggravating you, traffic is backed up, your flight is delayed, or your spouse is taking too long. Don’t go the next 20 years allowing the same people and the same circumstances to frustrate you. Change your approach. What’s upsetting you now doesn’t have to upset you anymore. You can choose to keep your cool and stay calm and steady. Remember, a relaxed attitude is going to lengthen your life. The next time you’re tempted to be upset, ask yourself, “Is this really worth giving up my joy over?”
If you’ll make this decision not to give away your joy and live each day happy, God promises you’ll be strong; you’ll have more peaceful relationships, and you’ll accomplish more. He says a joyful heart is good medicine! Hold on to your joy and let it heal your heart so you can experience the blessings He has in store for you!
Prayer for This week:
Father, this week I will hold on to joy! I choose to live each day with peace and happiness. I choose to rely on Your strength and Your Word which guides my every step. I love You and thank You for directing me in Jesus’ name. Amen.