December 15, 2014

Christmas 2014 hinging on Attorney Carter’s ability to work A MIRACLE IN COURT!

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 12:53 am

Hey Passengers we need to visit with our LifeTrain resident Lawyer Attorney Ewing Carter III (www.ecarterlaw.com)!  ANd just what train do you know of that has its own legal car!  Boy I tell you, I just love being the conductor of this here Train!  Today we find out if Attorney EC III can save Christmas!  All Aboard!

YouTube Preview Image

YOUR CONDUCTOR OVER THE INTERCOM:  ATTENTION PASSENGERS!  ATTENTION PASSENGERS!  SANTA MAY BE A LITTLE DELAYED THIS YEAR UNLESS ATTORNEY CARTER  CAN GET HIM OFF!  IT SEEMS THE SLEIGH WAS PULLED OVER AND…WELL…PLEASE DIRECT YOUR ATTENTION TO THE LIFETRAIN VIDEO DISPLAY.  …AND YOU WILL UNDERSTAND WHY WE ARE RUNNING THIS POST AGAIN IN HOPES THAT NO ONE WILL NEED TO “LEGALLY SPEAK!”.

KICK IT!

YouTube Preview Image

Well, the holiday season is upon us.  Christmas, and the upcoming New Year calls for thanksgiving for all the many blessings bestowed upon us, a celebration of the birth of Christ, and a reflection on the significant events in our lives that occurred the past twelve months.  For many folks that means celebrating! Office parties, family get-togethers, social outings, etc. And ok, so let’s not ignore that white elephant in the legal car, Drinking and driving!  This is especially high during these times, thus the reason for this discussion.

Chuckie:  Attorney Ewing Carter III, good day my good man.
EC III:  You trippin…as usual.

Chuckie:  What for-uth does thine sayth thine kind and knowledgeable sir?
Ewing:  Guess you want one of these snickers huh? [passing me a snickers from the bowl on his desk]

Chuckie:  Well, it will transform me back to the athlete you wish you could’ve been!
EC III:  In your dreams dude, now what’s the question?

Chuckie:  Well this holiday when you are in the Lexus driving home after “The Law office of Ewing Carter III annual holiday party, how will the law know you’ve had too much to drink before you drive?

EC III:  Well first of all I will be glad when that snickers kicks in Dumb Dumb!  I can assure you I will be the last person on earth caught drinking and driving.  Trust me, as part of my job I see the repercussions up close and in person.  Anyway, In most all 50 states, if a person is operating a motor vehicle and their blood alcohol content (BAC) is .08 or higher, they can be charged with driving while impaired (DWI) / driving under the influence (DUI).  A key consideration is that you can be impaired by any substance you ingest (alcohol, illegal drugs, and even prescription drugs).  Generally, the “Officer of the Peace ,“ (policeman, Sheriff, DMV officer, Park Ranger, etc.) can make the decision to stop and investigate a person, if he/she has a “reasonable suspicion” to believe that the person is driving while subject to an impairing substance. Tell-tale signs are: weaving, speeding, driving too slowly, making too wide of a turn, just to name a few.

Chuckie:   What should I do or say if I am stopped for DWI?
EC III:  Well do what you did the last time, start crying and call me.
[LOUD LAUGHTER]
EC III:  Seriously though, be as cooperative as possible.  The officer will ask for your driver’s license and vehicle registration.  He will be developing an opinion about “you
to determine to whether further investigation is warranted.  Noted signs of impairment are:  slurred speech, obvious odor of alcohol, disheveled clothing, and bloodshot eyes.

Chuckie:   If the officer asks me to take a breathalyzer test, should I comply, or refuse?

EC III:  The decision is totally yours to make.  However, there are some facts you should consider:

1. Driving is a privilege, and not a constitutional right.

2. Because driving is a privilege, the Department of Motor Vehicles (DMV) determines under what            circumstance a person can operate a motor vehicle along the road and highways of their state.

3. If you decide to refuse to take the breath test, the DMV will revoke your privilege to drive for a certain    period of time.  This revocation is generally for one (1) year.  However, obtaining a Driving Privilege in order to drive back and forth to work can be obtained from the Court.  In North Carolina, if you refuse the breath test, there is a 6-month waiting period before becoming eligible for the Driving Privilege.  Conversely, if you take the test, and your BAC in not excessive (.14 or lower), then there is no waiting period for the Driving Privilege.

Chuckie:  Whew, I guess the best thing is just not go there in the first place.
EC III:  Let me record this time and date.  The first time you ever said something that made sense.

Chuckie:  I’m bout to roll the credits, we taking this to the Racket ball court sucka!
EC III:  I’ll drive, you’ve obviously been drinking!

ATTENTION PASSENGERS…WE WILL SOON SEE IF THE ATTORNEY CAN SAVE CHRISTMAS!!!

Merry Christmas Passengers!  All Aboard!  Let the Good Times Roll!
YouTube Preview Image

December 2, 2014

Let’s Talk “Holiday Blues” with Dr. Emily Hath Ph.D.

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 12:44 am

All Aboard!  Welcome back to the Train, The LifeTrain.  As you board today I do the usual, hand you a business card to start your ride.  It reads:

Love is the ocean which accepts all manner of rivers without questioning their origin.

My friend, Dr. E !

My friend, Dr. E !

I want to re-introduce you to one of my many MIND Doctor friends, Dr. Emily Hath PhD.  Dr. E as I affectionately call her, and I know that there are people that tend to be more prone to the holiday blues. People who have lost a loved one may be flooded with unresolved grief and painful memories of a once joyful time of year. For people with strained relationships with family members, this time of year can be filled with stress and conflict. Some people are not able to join their families for the holidays, which can bring on  feelings of guilt and loneliness. And for people and families that are struggling financially, stretching the wallet or debt even more can trigger feelings of shame and depression.

For many people, the next 6 weeks are often filled with anything but holiday cheer.

So, each year the good Doc and I sit down over a cup of tea and discuss this very issue.  If you’re feeling stressed or anxious during the upcoming holidays, make the time to check in with yourself.  Putting on a happy face to “get through the holidays” isn’t doing anyone any favors, especially not for you. If this time of year is usually more stressful than festive, figure out what you need to do to alleviate that stress and make some changes.  Over the next few Weeks Dr. Hath and I will be here to offer tips so hop bak aboard and listen to what we discuss.  Listen in as we start our initial discussions about dealing with the holidays.

KICK IT!

YouTube Preview Image

Chuckie:  Dr E!
Dr.E:  My main man, Chuckie the conductor!

[Hug/Laughter]

Chuckie:  You knows I loves me some Dr.E!
DrE:  And you knows I loves me some Chuckie!

[more laughter]

Chuckie:  Dr.E A lot of people get anxious or sad around the holidays. For some people, the idea of getting together with family is stressful.  I actually talked with a very dear friend last week who lamented about that very same thing.  Having to put on a game face for the holidays.  For others, having no family to share the holidays with is stressful. And this year in particular, many people have lost their jobs and their homes!  So, Doc what can we offer to our ridership that may help restore true holiday cheer?

Dr.E:  Well Chuckie, unfortunately we just might not be able to cheer up anyone who has lost so much, but if some of our riders have the garden variety seasonal blues, here are 5 ideas I think we should offer up:

If you are feeling sorry for yourself because everyone has a significant other and you don’t, get out your phone and call or text some old high school friends — people you are already in touch with through Facebook or long-lost friends — just to say hello and wish them happy holidays. They will feel great that you thought about them during this season and you, in turn, will feel appreciated and connected.rout

You can use use the holidays as an excuse to contact a lost love, too. Have you always thought about contacting a “special someone,” but were afraid to? Send a simple e-card, and maybe add, “Thinking of you this holiday season and wondering how you are doing. I’d enjoy hearing from you when you get a moment.” If your old flame responds with an email, there you go! If you get no response, it was only a generic e-card so you won’t feel foolish about the contact.

Some people won’t respond because they are married, not because they aren’t interested in you, so don’t assume! And your lost love may surprise you and write later. But never do this if you are married; you have no idea how devastating these reconnections can be for you, a lost love, and your families!

Attending a holiday party? Worried about greeting guests you haven’t seen in a long time? Break the ice before you get together. Send some cute e-cards (or even snail mail cards, which can be more impressive to some recipients): “Looking forward to seeing you again!” That will make them feel special, so by the time they arrive, it will feel like you were together just yesterday.

This is a good time to heal an old rift. Is there someone you were once close to (a former friend, ex-spouse, coworker, estranged relative)? The holiday season is a great time to heal old wounds. Send some cookies or a small
box of candy — aren’t Internet gift sites convenient? — with a simply note that says, “It’s been a long time. Let’s put the past behind us. Happy holidays.”

A sure way to feel better is to stop thinking about yourself and go out and do some volunteer work. Right now. Help your elder neighbor with the yard work, serve meals at your local food shelter, go to a park and feed the ducks. Leaving your own concerns and thinking of others is a real day brightener.  We will delve deeper on a more clinical level but for now think about giving to get through the holidays.

Do you see the pattern here my man?: Reach out to people!

Chuckie:  Gotcha!
DrE:  Merry Christmas Chuckie and same to the passengers on this Train!

Hey fellow passengers, may I be the first to give you a Christmas gift…this story before you depart…A very DEEP story for you!  May it touch and enlighten the inner most you…

Kick the mood (Music)

A man is driving down the road and breaks down near a monastery. He goes to the monastery, knocks on the door, and says, My car broke down. Do you think I could stay the night?

The monks graciously accept him, feed him dinner, and even fix his car. As the man tries to fall asleep, he hears a strange sound; a sound like no other that he has ever heard. The next morning, he asks the monks what the sound was, but they say, We can’t tell you. You’re not a monk..

The man is disappointed but thanks them anyway and goes about his merry way. Some years later, the same man breaks down in front of the same m onastery.

The monks again accept him, feed him, and even fix his car.

That night, he hears the same strange mesmerizing sound that he had heard years earlier.

The next morning, he asks what the sound was, but the monks reply,

We can’t tell you. You’re not a monk.

The man says, All right, all right. I’m dying to know.

If the only way I can find out what that sound was, is to become a monk, how do I become a monk?

The monks reply, you must travel the earth and tell us how many blades of grass there are and the exact number of sand pebbles. When you find these numbers, you will become a monk.

The man sets about his task. Some forty-five years later, he returns and knocks on the door of the monastery. He says, I have traveled the earth and devoted my life to the task demanded and have found what you had asked for. There are 371,145,236,284,232 blades of grass and 231,281,219,999,129,382 sand pebbles on the earth.

The monks reply, Congratulations, you are correct and now you are a monk.

We shall now show you the way to the sound.

The monks lead the man to a wooden door, where the head monk says, the sound is behind that door.

The man reaches for the knob, but the door is locked. He asks, May I have the key?

The monks give him the key, and he opens the door.

Behind the wooden door is another door made of stone. The man requests the key to the stone door.

The monks give him the key, and he opens it, only to find a door made of ruby. He demands another key from the monks, who provide it. Behind that door is another door, this one made of sapphire. And so it went until the man had gone through doors of emerald,…

…silver, topaz, and amethyst.
Finally, the monks say, This is the key to the last door.

The man is relieved to no end. He unlocks the door, turns the knob, and behind that door he is astonished to find the source of that strange sound. It is truly an amazing and unbelievable sight

… Sorry Passengers But, I can’t tell you what it is because you’re passengers not monks.
All Aboard, The LifeTrain!!!

Hey Yo! There’s no profanity allowed on this here train!

Roll Credits!

YouTube Preview Image
November 18, 2014

The Courage To Quit…

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 6:00 pm

“Celebrate endings, for they precede new beginnings.” ~Jonathan Lockwood Huie

All Aboard!  Well passengers, enjoy the ride by reading on…KICK IT  (The mood, the music…like a glass of wine with your meal)

YouTube Preview Image

We often think of quitting as failure. We commend people for carrying on when times get rough. The heroes in our action movies don’t just give up when things get difficult. When was the last time you saw Steven Seagal walk away from a fight?

As the saying goes, “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.” Society expects us to fight back and battle on.

But sometimes, quitting is most definitely the right thing to do.

Sometimes, it’s the best option. A lot of people assume that it’s the easy thing to do—that only defeatists and good-for-nothin’ drop outs would even consider such a “cop-out.” This is not the case.

I learned this myself when I finally make that looming decision to end unhealthy relationships.” Even the words sound negative, as if I’ve fallen away from society, failing to meet my expectations. But I don’t see my decision as a negative thing at all, and oftentimes it wasn’t the easy thing to do.

I remember feeling imprisoned at times.  The longer I stayed, the more trapped I felt.f123

I could have continued going against my instincts; it would have been easier to sail along, ignoring my unhappiness for a few more years instead of stepping out into the world alone.  But I knew in my gut that the situation at the time wasn’t right for me, and that I needed something new. So I left, and no matter what friends, family, or acquaintances thought the decision, I know it was the right choice for me.

It doesn’t mean I was weak; it means I was brave enough to change what wasn’t right.  Sometimes you feel in your gut that the path you thought you were meant to take is wrong for you. It takes a lot of courage to admit that, even to yourself, let alone to the rest of the world. Sometimes you have to leave that path and find a new one. Or, if there is no new path to be found, create a new one.  This can apply to so many aspects of life—home, work, education, family, friends, relationships, and habits.

I’m not saying that if something doesn’t feel right or instantly work out that you should give up on it straight away. Carrying on is also brave and can be the right decision. But if you know that quitting something is the right thing to do, don’t be afraid to do so because of what others might think.

Make a change in your life if you know you need to…

We only have a limited amount of time and yet a limitless number of different paths to go down. Don’t waste your time on one that feels wrong, on something that is compromising your happiness. Find something new.  We all quit something at some point, so don’t fear the stigma.  Do what brings you happiness. Embrace the change.

“There are things known and there are things unknown, and in between are the doors.” ~Aldous Huxley.

Open some doors and let the air in. Breathe.

All Aboard!  The LifeTrain!!!

November 10, 2014

Merry Monday…Thanks to all Vets…

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 5:28 pm

All Aboard! And “MERRY MONDAY”  Before we pull out of the station and head on down these tracks called Life, let’s pull the Whistle as a signal to say thanks to all our many veterans who gave service to our country….

As is customery here on the Train, I, your faithful ocndutor hand you a  business card .  it reads:


“A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”
(Proverbs 17:22, ESV)
2day

Kick it (The mood, the Music)

YouTube Preview Image

Passengers, throughout life, there will always be something that will try to take our joy. If it’s not a grumpy sales person, it’s a family member aggravating you, traffic is backed up, your flight is delayed, or your spouse is taking too long. Don’t go the next 20 years allowing the same people and the same circumstances to frustrate you. Change your approach. What’s upsetting you now doesn’t have to upset you anymore. You can choose to keep your cool and stay calm and steady. Remember, a relaxed attitude is going to lengthen your life. The next time you’re tempted to be upset, ask yourself, “Is this really worth giving up my joy over?”

If you’ll make this decision not to give away your joy and live each day happy, God promises you’ll be strong; you’ll have more peaceful relationships, and you’ll accomplish more. He says a joyful heart is good medicine! Hold on to your joy and let it heal your heart so you can experience the blessings He has in store for you!

Prayer for This week:

Father, this week I will hold on to joy! I choose to live each day with peace and happiness. I choose to rely on Your strength and Your Word which guides my every step. I love You and thank You for directing me in Jesus’ name. Amen.

All Aboard!  The LifeTrain!!!

ROLL CREDITS:

Yours Truly…The Conductor

YouTube Preview Image

November 3, 2014

Merry Monday! This week, Oh the places you will go!

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 12:09 am

Hey LifeTrain passenger! All Aboard! You know how we do on the LifeTrain, we greet each other with “Merry Monday!”. We refuse to acknowledge any form of a manic Monday! So strut your stuff and pass this along:

God determines who walks into your life….it’s up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.

Father, God bless all my friends here on the LifeTrain in whatever it is that You know they may be needing this day! And may their life be full of your peace, prosperity and power as they seek to have a closer relationship with you. In Jesus Name…Amen.

By the way…This week…

Oh the places you will go:  CLICK


YouTube Preview Image

October 26, 2014

Merry Monday! This week, Stay in the present

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 12:37 am

All Aboard!  Merry Monday!  Welcome back aboard the LifeTrain.   This week…let’s live in the present.

Right at this moment is your life.  Kick it…

YouTube Preview Image

Right at this moment is your life you might wonder ‘when will my life get better’? or ‘when will I get over this’? ‘when will things improve’? If you are wondering those things, you are wasting your life. Because the only time that
you have power over, is right now, right at this second.

Only right now, right at this second, do you have power to change.

If you feel sad, try to distract your mind. Do something small right now, to make you feel better. Try to focus on right now. By staying with the present, you become in full control of your life. And therefore in better control, of making better life plans for the future.

There is no magical place, in the future when things will get better, it is now. As this is all that you have power over.

One of the biggest reasons for stress, anxiety, is being in a situation that you feel is out of your control. It can feel overwhelming. But the truth is, in most every day circumstances, you have the power right now, to be how you want to be, to feel how you want to.

Live in your moment...now.

Live in your moment…now.

It is up to you whether you choose to be happy or sad. You can change your mind in an instant. The power and the choice is yours.
If you are feeling low. Do something NOW which YOU enjoy. Don’t worry about the future. Or sit in reflection on the past. You cannot change the past. You can shape the future, but it has not happened yet. Why waste today? And the joy that you could experience today, by focusing on joy that might, or might not happen tomorrow?

Have something nice to eat, go for a walk, see something beautiful, be that, architecture, art, wildlife, see the beauty that is all around you. Have a candle lit bath, indulge yourself. If you are feeling low, now is the time, to put extra effort into recharging your energy.

By focusing on what might happen in the future, or sitting in reflection of the past, you are wasting your life. Because life, your life, is simply now. Right now, right as you are reading this, at this very second. This is you.

So passengers, the point for this week is, be with the present, take control of your life, focus on now, and you will learn that the secret of true happiness really does come from within.

All Aboard!  The LifeTrain!

October 19, 2014

Merry Monday! Let’s fill up for the week!

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 5:51 am

ALL ABOARD!!!

Merry Monday Passengers…Time to “FILL UP!!!” so we can make it through the week.  But first…the Mood Music:

YouTube Preview Image

This is a wonderful collection of thoughts that I would like to share.  Join me as I fill up the train…and myself.!

Ever wake up and don’t want to get out of bed? Ever wonder lord why me? Ever fall asleep wondering how you made it through another day? Ever spend an evening alone thinking how you can be where you are today? Ever wonder why the chic down the street acts like trash but is married and you’re not?  Ever think about how someone else’s child seems to be on the right path and yours acts like they have lost their mind?m1

Ever wonder why your finances are always messed up and you can never see light at the end of the tunnel? Ever wonder why Ms. Thang next door is so cute and fine and you have a hard time staying away from the table and keeping ten pounds off?

Ever think about why your husband seems to be the only one in your circle of friends that still hasn’t gotten himself together?

Ever wonder why you’re still single? Ever wonder why you’re married?

Ever wonder why the person you love doesn’t love you back?

The answer all of these questions could have me writing for days.

But, if any of these are you, the Holy Spirit sent me by today to give you some extra fuel. You wake up and keep going because God has a plan  for you (Jer 29:11). You make it day by day because God ain’t through with you yet. You’re alone or single because God is doing some things in you. Don’t get it twisted!

It’s not that he “just hasn’t found you;” it’s also because if he did find you, you wouldn’t be ready!  God is perfecting some things within you. Stop looking around thinking it’s the other person. Nope! It’s you! There may be something wrong with them, but before you hook up, God wants to get some things right with you!

So, stop looking around wondering why God seems to be passing out blessings, but for some reason He passed your door! God passed your door on purpose.  Don’t talk about other people’s glory, because you don’t know their story!

mbanLord Help Me Somebody! You don’t know why the no good girl down the street is married. You don’t know how she got her man, and you don’t know what she’s going through to keep him! Remember, the bible says, the wealth of the wicked is laid up for the righteous! My brother, my sister, that’s YOU!

We are so quick to look at what God is doing in others.  We have to learn to pay more attention to what God is doing in self. I know it’s hard…because the truth is; you think you have it all together. You think you’re ok! With a few adjustments, and you’ll be ahead of your game!  Think again…those few adjustments are just the areas that God needs to fix before He moves you forward.  Do the Godly things “in spite of” that disobedient child, and/or dishonorable husband, and watch them watch you as God fixes the situation.  You are the change agent! As they see the change in you, they’ll be inspired to move!  Fuel is what you need. Yes, you need fuel to be what God has you to be. Well, did you stop by the fuel station? The church? That’s where your main source of fuel comes from. If not, be not dismayed, God is so awesome, that He sent fuel right to your front door m2in the form of an email. He’s awesome like that! He knew just what you’d need, when you need it! Now that you have it, what are you going to do with it?

Don’t be stingy; God is getting ready to work. Give this fuel in the form of action to yourself, then your children, husband, coworkers, whoever may need it! Pass it on! God gave it to you, so that you might give it to others. Go ahead, don’t be afraid…remember, if He did it for you, He’ll do it for us ALL!

This is your fuel for the week. Don’t keep it to yourself, send someone to the the LifeTrain!

ALL ABOARD!  The LifeTrain!

October 12, 2014

This week, “Carpe Diem!”

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 12:53 am

Welcome back to another week on the Train, the LifeTrain.  This week may I suggest the following for us…this week and beyond, “CARPE DIEM!”

YouTube Preview Image

As you board the train this week I hand you a white business card with simple blak lettering.  It reads:

Don’t wait for extraordinary opportunities. Seize common occasions and make them great!~Orison Swett Marden

One of the reasons I started to blog eight years ago was to hold myself accountable. As the days go by, I want to spread the word to continue to
raise my personal accountability level.

This concept has enabled me to take chances that I never could have imagined.  This experience has benefited me greatly. I initiated contact with strangers who are now my closest friends.

I have done things that brought smiles to people having a boring, routine day. I have been able to introduce myself to others in a more confident way. I even got the opportunity to start a ministry:  www.PRAYING4YOU.org.

If you need a little help putting yourself out there and becoming more assertive, you may find these reminders helpful:

1. Not trying guarantees you won’t get what you want.

Part of the reason why people hesitate to make an initial move in any situation is their fear of rejection.

If you’re in a big group of people and want to share your idea, you face the fear of rejection. If you want to share your feelings with someone you care about, you face the fear of rejection. If you want to ask for a promotion in a job, you face the fear of rejection.

MERRY MONDAY! Don't forget this, this week....

MERRY MONDAY!
Don’t forget this, this week….

However, if you do not act, you’ll never know if they would’ve accepted your offer. Not being assertive and letting the moment slip away gives you a 100% chance of not getting what you want.

2. People aren’t looking to hurt you.

Many of the negative outcomes we imagine are, in fact, imaginary. The majority of people are going to be polite once you say hi to them or initiate conversation. Many times people will do what they can to fulfill your request.

From what I’ve experienced, people feel terrible if they have to reject you—but sometimes it is a good thing when they do. You wouldn’t want a potential date to accept your invitation unless the person was interested, right?

3. We don’t need other people’s approval.

The girl you tried to talk to tells you to get lost. The group laughs at your idea. These are risks worth taking to seize possibilities.

4. Strangers around the situation aren’t paying attention.

Sometimes when we hold back, it’s because we feel self conscious with people watching. But think about it—do strangers really care about what you’re doing? Most of the time, they’re not even paying attention. If they are, so what? Does it really matter?

I started conversing with someone on the bus today and so many people turned their heads towards me that I thought I woke everyone up. I decided to tune them out because their thoughts didn’t affect the outcome of my conversation.

Even if they had some sort of judgment, they were entitled to that. It didn’t affect me.

5. The three-second rule can work wonders.

Ideally, it is good to talk to someone within three seconds of seeing them so that anxiety can’t form in your mind. Once more time elapses, it becomes more difficult. Save yourself the trouble and act as soon as the instinct arises.

6. Accept mistakes and don’t be too hard on yourself.

All Aboard!  This week....The LifeTrain!

All Aboard! This week….The LifeTrain!

I’m pretty sure I have said things that were a bit awkward or with the wrong tone of voice. Making mistakes is a part of learning how to become assertive.

At some point, everyone has said something that felt like the wrong thing. No matter how badly you messed up, feel positive about yourself because you took a chance.

7. Realize your negative thoughts aren’t facts.

Nothing holds us back like negative self talk. Find your own personal way to overcome the negative idea.

It may help to mentally isolate the negative emotion and realize it’s separate from you. What works for me is to imagine a metaphorical mirror that reflects everything I suspect people are thinking about me. I then put a cover over the mirror to avoid that trap. Our actions and words stem from our mindset.

When I have a hard time being assertive, I remember that moment when I didn’t share my feelings and a girl I loved slipped away. Now I ask myself: Would I would rather risk rejection, or have to wonder, “What if?”

PS.  Don’t tell anybody I just told you this…

All aboard, the “LifeTrain!”

October 8, 2014

Lessons I’ve learned from the “West Wing”… Part II

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 8:21 pm

ALL ABOARD!!!  Kick it (Your musical accompaniment)

Fellow passengers, as I said in part I (scroll down the train, the West Wing Part I), whether you are interested in politics or not, is one of the best shows of all time in my opinion. You may not care which party wins the election, but The West Wing is about more than that. It’s about how you navigate through the world, where there is politics involved in nearly everything. The writing is exceptional, and the cast is perfect. It appeals to both the mind and the heart.

I learned so much from the West Wing series...it fed my mind...and my heart.

I learned so much from the West Wing series…it fed my mind…and my heart.

To look at it from a  higher level, it’s about how to have ideals, how to dream big, and then how work to make them happen in the real world which is inevitably full of constraints.

There were numerous lessons to be learned, but here I want to share with you the five main lessons that jumped out at me:

There is always enough time to live your purpose.

Bartlett and his staff manage to make decisions about a nation, attend parties, play chess, do press briefings, write speeches, read memos and God knows what. That’s fictional. But the same thing applies to Presidents and Prime Ministers all around the world. Leaders like Gandhi and Mandela who made a difference. CEOs of ground-breaking companies who get stuff done. Yes, they all have staff, but any manager with half-decent skills will tell you that motivating and managing people is a job in itself.

All of these people have the same time as you do. So how is that some of these guys manage to run a country in 24 hours, but some people don’t have time for that book they always wanted to write?

Everyone needs a support system

No one has all the skills. Your weakness is someone else’s specialty. Get the right people in the right roles, and let them get on with it. Don’t just create a team of people who agree with you. Create a team of people who believe in your purpose. Those are the guys you want on your side. They will challenge you, they will disagree with you, they might even yell at you….but the results will be better because of it.

Be Authentically Passionate

Authenticity gives credibility to passionate expression. When you speak about something that you wholeheartedly believe in, it shows up through fire in your eyes and enthusiasm in your voice.

Everyone has to compromise

Know when to accept defeat gracefully. The price of authenticity is that everyone has the same right, and as people are not the same, opinions differ. Your opinion will not always win. Your cause is not the only just cause.

Don’t be with people who block you

They don’t have to help you, but they shouldn’t hinder you. If you are driven to do something, then you shouldn’t have to give that up because someone wants you home at 5 pm. If that fire within you isn’t used towards your purpose, it will consume you.

Before I give the parting call of ALL ABOARD!  Let me leave you with a clip that almost made me…you’d have to know the full story…

ALL Aboard!  The LifeTrain!!!

 

October 5, 2014

Merry Monday! “More than you imagine.”

Category: Thoughts — chuckie @ 12:23 am

There is truly more than you imagine.  Kick it (The musical accompaniment)

Hey passengers, this week remember this from your faithful, humble, conductor.  You have barely scratched the surface of what is possible for your life and your world.

The things you want improved can be improved through the application of faith and effort.

What you seek sleeps like a seed nestled in the soil of your consciousness. You can and will cause it to sprout with faith and action.

What is it that you desire? Water it with your faith; nourish it with your action–that is your part.

So, this week let’s be like the sun, let’s shine a radiant light of infinite possibility assuring a successful harvest.

Not a sermon, Just some thoughts…

All Aboard!!!  The LifeTrain!