December 3, 2013
ALL ABOARD! Fellow passengers, I hope today’s post speaks to you as it did to me…
But first, let’s set the mood…KICK IT!
Take Control of Your Day– Do not miss out on the rewards of well-managed time. Order is what gives you the freedom to be creative. It is impossible to imagine and envision when you are overextended and stressed. You need to schedule time to purposefully paint the canvas of your life by investing in creative dreaming. STOP to THINK. Order your day so that you have the time and peace you need to create the masterpiece God has preordained for you.
Like any professional composer, artist, architect, writer or programmer, you must schedule time to think things through. Form follows thought, and the shape of your life is a product of that thought.
The rewards of order are many. It may seem like a daunting if not exhausting task to establish a greater degree of order in your life. Especially if you feel you are already overstretched. But taking time to order your day should not be an additional burden or one more “to do” on your list of duties. Order will ease your load and free your mind for greater peace, joy and creativity. Take a look at this short list of benefits you will reap by more effectively ordering your day:
- Sense of control
- Sense of purpose
- Increase in productivity
- An environment of creativity
- Greater focus and flow of accomplishments
- Strength to overcome those little foxes that spoil the vine
The steps of a good man/woman are ordered by the Lord, and He delights in his/her way. (Improvised) Psalm 37:23
All Aboard! The LifeTrain!
December 1, 2013
Well passengers once again the good Doctor, Dr .Diedra Hayman, Ph.D. is back with us here on the LiFeTrain.
This week I ask the Doc for advice on battling the holiday blues:
Chuckie: Why do you think that domestic violence realizes such an increase during the Holidays? Is this in any way related to depression?
Dr. Dee: domestic violence is not always related to depression. It can be, but its actually seen as a separate issue. Many things can trigger men, and sometimes women, to resort to violence, but often around the holidays, control over how money is spent or how family and friends access the couple can trigger an episode of violence.
Chuckie: Any suggestions for mitigating this circumstance?
Dr. Dee: Victims of domestic violence are encouraged to make use of shelters and other agencies designed to help them escape, and perpetrators also can take advantage of mental health services aimed at that population. Some shelters take women along with their children, and some can even make arrangements for a victim’s pets. Pets are often used as a means of threatening a victim into staying. Its often difficult to get both victims and perpetrators to seek help, but it is available.
Chuckie: What criteria should one use when seeking a therapist?
Dr.Dee: therapists generally have a theory or two that they tend to favor. Find out what it is, and whether that fits with your own style. If you want unconditional support and your therapist is a behaviorist, you may not get what you’re looking for! Also ask about licensing and credentials. Anyone can call themselves a therapist. But you need to know the state has said they meet a minimum educational standard. Find out through the state licensing board for their profession whether they have any complaints against them, or whether their license has been suspended. These actions help protect you as a consumer, but few people will actually do this. Interview the therapist as you would a babysitter. If you aren’t comfortable, if the chemistry isnt’t right, move on.
Chuckie: What should one expect to achieve in Her/His first session
Dr. Dee: The first session is usually a chance to get some history of your situation or symptoms, and to establish some rapport. Depending on the setting, it may be filled with paperwork, including setting goals and determining how you’ll know when treatment is finished. Some first sessions may be focused on allowing you to “tell your story”, which is what a lot of people want to jump right into from the word “go”. Sometimes the therapist will slow you down so you dont tell too much too fast. People don’t realize that can leave them feeling very vulnerable sometimes. It should be a comfortable appointment where the limits of confidentiality are discussed, as well as having a framework for the therapy, defined.
Chuckie: well what are the limits of confidentiality? I thought i could tell a therapist anything and they’d have to keep it confidential.
Dr. Dee: in general that is true. However, there are certain circumstances that require the therapist to break that confidentiality: if you tell me you’re going to kill yourself, i have to not only tell, but do whatever i can to keep you safe. That may mean getting responsible family involved, it may mean hospitalization for a few days. If you tell me you’re going to kill someone else, i have to not only tell the intended victim, but the police and my boss. If you tell me you are abusing a child physically or sexually, or yiu are under age or an elderly person, i have to call that in to child or adult protective services. If the court orders me, i have to break confidence. And of course third party payors like insurance companies and medicaid have a right to access records. If the court sent you for services or you are a minor and your parent sent you, they have a right to access your records.
Chuckie: As promised, we limit our “Ask the Doc” session to just a few questions each week. So in closing any additional words of wisdom for battling the Holiday Blues?
Dr. Dee: sure! Its usually very helpful to direct your energy toward helping someone less fortunate. Anything that shifts the focus away from yourself to others, has a tendency to lift the spirits. Also, exercise in the fresh air, even the cold air, is a mood elevator.
Chuckie: Well, our time has come to an end. Thanks Doc for joining us here on the LiFeTrain. Love ya gurl!
Dr.Dee: Love you too! See ya again real soon. Merry Chirstmas and Oh, Passengers, all Aboard, The LiFeTrain…LOL!
November 14, 2013
Passengers! I’m so excited that you hopped aboard today. I have somethig very important to share. I hope you will share it as needed. But first, our music to accompany the article, KICK IT!
Recently I was talking to a very dear friend. She is a very accomplished woman, beautiful, educated and she loves God. However, our conversation centered around the fact that she felt that a recent string of failures was affecting her self esteem and bringing about a measure of shall we say “Da Blues”. She was questioning the sum total of her life’s meaning. Of course I reminded her that God makes no mistakes and that “this to shall pass”. Well, as luck would have it I stumbled across the perfect story (see below). So I think I will post it and call her up and direct her to the Train. Let me know what you think, leave a comment. Here goes, All aboard:
It was a Friday. I was about 10 minutes late for work. Before I could
put my lunch in the refrigerator, Wally & Fred called me into Wally’s
Something did not feel right.
“Perry, we’re going to have to let you go. Things just aren’t working
out and it’s time to cut you loose.”
We’d had the pleading conversation about giving me one more chance 2-3
times already. That discussion just wasn’t gonna happen again.
2 years before when they’d hired me, Wally said, “Perry is a sales guy
just waiting to happen.” Now Perry was *still* a sales guy ‘just waiting
to happen’ and they had waited long enough.
I drove the long commute back home. When I walked in the back door at
9:30 in the morning, it only took Laura about one second to figure out
what happened. (It was about the 5th or 6th job I’d been fired from, and
she was starting to get accustomed to this.)
Firing me was the l-a-s-t thing Wally and Fred wanted to do. Other than
the long string of failed sales contracts, we all liked each other just
fine. They all had families; terminating a young guy with an 18 month
old baby girl who’d been born just after he started wasn’t exactly their
idea of a fun team-building exercise.
But it didn’t really matter how much “I love you / you love me / we’re a
happy family” we all had together, business is business and sales is
sales. If you can’t bring home the bacon, you don’t get breakfast.
In moments like that, you make decisions, vows, inner resolutions.
I made a decision to prove to those guys that Wally had been right at
the very beginning and I really *was* a sales guy waiting to happen.
“Someday. . . . I’ll show those guys. . . .” I swore under my breath.
Part of me was tempted to want ‘revenge’ but I held that emotion in
check. They were just doing what they had to do after all.
But even more than that, I made a decision that somehow or another I was
going to find *something* that worked. Everything I’d tried to sell for
the previous 7 years had failed.
It’s a horrible feeling when you’re X years old [however old that
happens to be] and hardly anything you’ve ever done has been successful.
That was 12 years ago.
Well guess what happened the other day? Fred called me out of the blue.
He asked me if I could help him with his company’s marketing. I hadn’t
seen him since the day I got fired. Shortly after we parted, he started
a new firm.
Last week we had lunch on the patio of an Italian restaurant.
This time, he drove the long commute from the Northwest Suburbs to come
He brought his operations manager. I was telling the guy how my time
with Fred was just one of those seasons of life where nothing was
working. Fred chimes in: “Well it wasn’t from lack of effort. Perry
I nod. Yep that’s right, I tried just about everything.
Fred asks me, “Any regrets?”
I shake my head vigorously. “No regrets. Not one. Things happen for a
reason and there are just certain things you have to learn. Sometimes
the lessons are hard. That job didn’t work out but it prepared me
superbly for the next job, which worked splendidly.”
As we’re talking I think back and am truly thankful for all the tools I
put on my tool belt during that horribly painful time. Not a week goes
by that I don’t draw from something I learned during those 2 years.
And I’m reminded how powerful it is to have an attitude of gratitude
even when, in the moment, it doesn’t really feel like you have anything
to be thankful for at all.
I can promise you, it didn’t *feel* like I had much to be thankful for
then. But that just wasn’t true. There wasn’t much fat to go around, but
I was building LOTS of muscle.
And you know what. . . it’s been the same story in *every* department of
my life. All the various times of relationship conflicts, problems with
kids, therapy sessions, financial struggles, evil bosses, botched deals,
deadbeat co-workers . . . all were seasons of building muscles, building
muscles, building muscles.
During that time years ago I was desperate and I did LOTS of soul
searching. Fred asked me what finally made my career start to click.
I said, “I was an ‘OK’ salesman back then and I was getting killed by
the ‘good’ salesmen. But when I went from selling something where techie
skills were *helpful* to selling something where techie skills were
*mandatory*, everything started to take off.”
That made complete sense to him. The geek department is my #1 strength
and everything I’ve done since then has taken full advantage of my geek
In hindsight, all the tweaking and wrangling in the world wouldn’t have
made that job work well. Yes there are a lot of things we could have
done better, failed projects we could have saved. Most of the key
ingredients were there, but at the end of the day I was trying to pound
a square peg into a round hole. The job was at war with my inner geek.
So. . . was it the *wrong* job? Was it a mistake to work there in the
Sometimes you pick up a LOT of skills during those seasons of pounding
square pegs into round holes. (To be completely honest, the pegs almost
NEVER fit perfectly anyway, do they??? They sure haven’t for me!)
Whatever life is throwing at you at the moment, you focus on the
positive, express gratitude, and believe that there is a bigger picture
that you truly are cracking the code on.
And I’d like you to consider that if you happen to be in a situation
like my old job where lots of things are almost working but nothing is
actually working, it might be because all the little things are right
and there’s just one “BIG” thing that’s wrong.
Sometimes when you fix that one BIG thing, your fortunes reverse.
Meanwhile, thanks Fred. . . and Wally. . . and Nick and Ron and Gary and
Jim and Mike and all the other odd assorted characters I’ve moshed with
along the way.
My friend, I hope you can feel gratitude for whatever crazy things
you’ve gone through and whatever punches you’ve rolled with. There’s an
old proverb “faithful are the wounds of a friend” and it’s really true.
The laboratory of reality was saying “Time to move on” and Wally and
Fred did the right thing by listening to it.
And just remember . . . you never know when things may come full circle,
when you find that you’ve earned the respect you so desperately craved
in a prior season of life.
You never know when someone you were useless to way back when, will
suddenly find you useful. And maybe even necessary.
All Aboard! The LifeTrain!
November 13, 2013
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November 7, 2013
An acquaintance has a little something in common with you and merely enjoys your company for a short time. A fair-weather friend flatters you when the sun is shining and the birds are chirping. A true friend, on the other hand, has your very best interests at heart and would NEVER…
1. Criticize you for being flawed.
As flawed as you might be, as out of place as you sometimes feel, and as lacking as you think you are, you don’t have to hide all the imperfect pieces of yourself from a true friend. They see your flaws as features that make you interesting and beautiful.
The quality of the happiness between two people grows in direct proportion to their acceptance, and in inverse proportion to their intolerance and expectations. True friends love and appreciate each other just the way they are.
2. Walk away when times get tough.
True friendship and good character is all about how a person nurtures another person when they are vulnerable and can give very little in return. Thus, it’s not who’s standing beside you during good times, but the ones who stick by you through tough times that are your true friends.
So take note of who remains in your life when times get tough, especially the people who sacrifice the resources they have in their life to help you improve yours when you need it most. Seriously, when you come out the other side of a difficult period in your life, look around you. The people still standing beside you are your true friends.
3. Discourage you.
Unfortunately, some who seem like your friends will try to hold you back from your full potential. It may be difficult, but don’t let these negative imposters bring you down. Don’t ever let your so-called friends turn your sky into a ceiling. Beware of friends who try to belittle your ambitions. Small hearts and minds always do that. The greatest hearts and minds – the people you should spend time around – make you feel that you, too, can become great.
Remember, encouraging things happen when you distance yourself from discouraging people. Doing so doesn’t mean you hate them, it simply means you respect yourself. (Angel and I discuss this in more detail in the “Relationships” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
4. Hold a grudge over your head.
Some people will refuse to accept that you are no longer who you used to be – that you’ve made mistakes in the past, learned from them, and moved beyond them. They may not be able to stand the fact that you’re growing and moving on with your life, and so they will try to drag your past to catch up with you. Do not help them by acknowledging their begrudging behavior. Let go of their negativity, find peace, and liberate yourself!
A true friend never holds the unchangeable past against you; instead, they help your repair your present and future. If someone relentlessly judges you by your past and holds it against you, you might have to take matters into your own hands, and repair your present and future by leaving them behind.
5. Lie to you.
When you keep someone in your life who is a chronic liar, and you keep giving them new chances to be trusted, you have a lot in common with this person – you’re both lying and being unfriendly to YOU.
If you know someone who avoids the truth by telling you only what you want to hear, they do so for their own benefit, not yours. They are not a true friend and they don’t deserve to be treated as such.
6. Pretend like they have all the answers.
If you think about the people who have had the greatest positive effect on your life – the ones who truly made a difference – you will likely realize that they aren’t the ones that tried to give you all the answers or solve all your problems. They’re the ones who sat silently with you when you needed a moment to think, who lent you a shoulder when you needed to cry, and who tolerated not having all the answers, but stood beside you anyway.
Don’t look for a friend who will solve all your problems; look for one who will face them with you.
7. Take from you without giving back.
You deserve to be with friends who make you smile – friends who don’t take you for granted – friends who won’t leave you hanging. When you notice that a friend is always taking from you without giving back, you might need to distance yourself from them for a while. If they care, they’ll notice. If they don’t, you know where you stand.
You should want to give, but you shouldn’t be forced to always give more than you get. If you feel like you are being taken advantage of, respect yourself enough to confront the situation. This doesn’t mean you have to stop being friends with those who you feel are at fault, but you need to evaluate your friendships and realize where to draw the line when you give yourself to certain people.
8. Bully you.
It takes a great deal of courage to stand up to your enemies, but just as much to stand up to your friends. Sometimes bullying comes from the most unlikely places. Be cognizant of how your friends treat you, and look out for the subtle jabs they throw. When necessary, confront them or distance yourself from them – whatever it takes to give yourself the opportunity to grow into who you really are.
Life’s too short to be hanging around people who try to control and manipulate you. Anyone who does so is not a true friend. Gain your independence by taking off the shackles and freeing yourself from these bullies. (Read The Mastery of Love.)
9. Make you feel like you’re burdening them.
True friendship is never burdened with stressful promises and obligations. What true friends do for each other should be done because they care and because they want to do them. Period.
So don’t chase people. They don’t need to be chased. If someone is a true friend and wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever force yourself on someone who continuously overlooks your worth.
A true friend who understands your tears and troubles is far more valuable than a hundred friends who only show up for your smiles and joys. Because a true friend accepts who you truly are, and also helps you become who you are capable of being.
Friendships like this require more than just finding the right person, they also require you to be the right person. When someone believes in you enough to lift you up, try not to let them down. True friendship is a sweet responsibility to be nurtured, not an opportunity to be exploited.
What would you add to the list? What’s one thing a true friend would never do? Leave a comment below and let me know…
ALL ABOARD! THE LIFETRAIN!!!
November 5, 2013
“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.” ~Elbert Hubbard
Why did that affect me so? What was I feeling? Sheer Anger! Total disgust with myself. Hatred and disappointment in my life that stained my thoughts. Why? Because in my ego’s opinion, I should already be who I was meant to be, and I was not there! Not by a mile.
I feal so much disgust. My fears and resentment had grown into hatred and pain. I was at a loss for who I never became. I felt that I was wasting my life—or so I perceived it that way.
It is hard to accept this. I am so sorry that I have failed so frequently at empowering myself. Seriously, what extremes must I take to wake up and say, “I am finally okay with myself; I am here, warts and all”?
Instead, life has molded me, shaped me, and created me where I am right now.
Sometimes full of regret you could see it in my eyes. Why pursue so many times my desire to make something of myself? What am I making anyway?
What did I expect to have happened already? Who did I think I was supposed to be? Fear, disappointment, and sadness shadow me as I have moved on.
Now I am asking myself, “What would someone who loves themselves do?”
It struck me, what if I decided to define what I believe I failed at? As I looked at my life, what I perceived as success and failure started to unravel.
I was learning how I defined each of these two words. This was a monumental moment for me.
Because I experienced my power at a young age of believing I could do anything, believing that I could make anything happen, I concluded in my late twenties, as one dead end led to another, that I couldn’t maintain, sustain, or become successful at what I really wanted. The dual NFL/NBA career was just not going to happen. Barak beat me to the White House and Law School is fast becoming a fleeting thought
Attempts to open and sustain a tech business failed as customers came and went. My joy and passion as the next Bill Gates failed at so many corners, it drove me crazy.
When I reflect back on my life, I can see that if I had succeeded in these endeavors, I never would have worked on my own healing and opened up to my own gifts as a healer, A LIFETRAIN Conductor! Fate or destiny had another plan for me.
My definition of failure became clear to me.
One day I sat down and made a bullet list showing all the failures on one side and all the successes on the other side. All of a sudden I had a light bulb moment where it was clear that I had more successes than I ever thought.
I began seeing my strengths. Looking at my failures and successes this way has changed the charge I have on it. I’m not afraid of ideas, or starting something and making something out of nothing. This is not failure!
As I continued looking and decoding my thoughts, I could see that I connected my self-worth and self-esteem with money and earnings in my definition. That is not success. That is all about old beliefs and being stuck in them.
I have changed in twenty years. And now, I can see how different I am. My past is not my future. My worth is not based on money, talents, or what I have proven to myself or the world. Success is not a destination; it is how we choose to live our life on a daily basis.
I can only now see this. At a young age, there was no way I could see it..
Life needs to create “failures” so we have two viewpoints to reference from.
I’ve recognized that I am quite successful at many things. As I looked at my successes on my bullet list, I realized that I need to market my strengths and hire someone for the things I’m not great at. Maybe even get a coach. As my excitement bubbled up, for the first time in my adult life, I felt I was becoming myself.
By redefining this word “failure,” I learned that I am able to move forward and embrace who I am becoming. The guilt, the anger, the wishes and desires that shadow my past can fade away.
The illusions of who I was and who I am can fade as my authentic self emerges and rises above. I get to create success now through my choices. I can rejoice that I have made it thus far. For me, that is magical. I feel I am enough.
That is how someone who loves themselves gets to decide what failure means.
Get the hint? Love yourself..no one is a better you…than you!
All Aboard…”The LifeTrain!
November 4, 2013
Hey LifeTrain passenger! All Aboard! You know how we do on the LifeTrain, we greet each other with “Merry Monday!”. We refuse to acknowledge any form of a manic Monday! So strut your stuff and pass this along:
God determines who walks into your life….it’s up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.
Father, God bless all my friends here on the LifeTrain in whatever it is that You know they may be needing this day! And may their life be full of your peace, prosperity and power as they seek to have a closer relationship with you. In Jesus Name…Amen.
By the way…This week…
Oh the places you will go: CLICK
October 31, 2013
Hey Passengers, THE WEEKEND IS ALMOST HERE!…Let’s Go! move on down the tracks…You can do it! And can you beleieve it, It’s getting closer to some serious TURKEY!!! …Thanksgiving!
Today we continue with our theme of the week: Why worry?
So… after rding with me this week, let me ask you, do you still have worries? Secondly, do you believe you inherited this tendency to stew from your parents? I recently found out that biology possibly plays a role, research suggests, but there are things we can do to break this cycle of agonizing.
Researchers at Yale have identified a gene mutation for “rumination” — the kind of chronic worry in which people obsess over negative thoughts. I read that it is a variation of a gene known as BDNF that’s active in the hippocampus, an area of the brain involved in thinking and memory. There was a study of 200 mothers and daughters published in the journal Neuroscience Letters last month, the Yale scientists found that those who had been depressed in their youth were more likely to be ruminators and to have this particular variation of BDNF.
The discovery adds to a growing body of evidence that depression involves an inability to control negative thoughts, not just excess emotion, says psychologist Susan Nolen-Hoeksema, one of the Yale investigators. And just because rumination has genetic roots doesn’t mean it’s inescapable, she says. “People can learn to stop these thought processes and have better emotional health.”
Some successful professionals find that worry works for them. Imagining everything that might go wrong, and preparing for it, is known as “defensive pessimism.” I have to admit I study about defensive pessimism. Professionally, I have found myself thinking of ways to gain an advantage over my adversaries, and I assume they’re doing the same thing. It can be tough swimming with the Sharks and never knowing who is friend or foe.
Other people use worry as a kind of magical shield — if they worry that the plane will crash, it won’t. It doesn’t, ergo, they have to worry on every flight. …Been there…Done that!
HEY!!! WAIT JUST A MINUTE!!!
WHERE’S MY MANNERS!!! We forgot… The mood….The Music…KICKIT!!!
Worrying also seems to be part of some people’s personalities. even me…I’ve been furrowing my forehead forever — you could pick me out in kindergarten, These days, I worry about my retirement. Prior to that, it was focused completely on the workplace. Prior to that, it was, ‘Am I cool enough to live?’ “
But worrying is wearying, It’s like chronic pain, and ultimately it doesn’t shield you anymore. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Then you have a heart attack.
Chronic worry can, in fact, lead to a variety of health issues, including headaches, gastrointestinal problems, high blood pressure, anxiety and depression, studies have shown. Rumination, which focuses more on past events than future what-ifs, has also been linked to binge eating,
binge-drinking and self-harm. Ruminators may be subconsciously trying to stop their harmful thoughts, says Dr. Nolen-Hoeksema. “Disengaging is really, really hard — you see that in their neural activity and in their behavior,” she adds. But studies have shown that doing something distracting for just 10 minutes can break the cycle and help people tackle problems more effectively.
Techniques from cognitive-behavioral therapy can also help worriers stop the kind of thinking that just makes them miserable.
This week passengers, it’s all about finding the balance between productive and unproductive worrying, …agreed? Let’s start the week off by first asking ourselves, ‘Is this worry leading to a To Do list?’ If it doesn’t lead to some action on our part this Merry Monday, then, let’s set it aside.”
Let’s try this, how’s about us reserving 20 minutes a day to worry. Then let’s see if we can postpone worrying, …GET IT!?! We would then be exercising control over it, rather than letting it control us!
And THIS WEEK, let’s learn to accept some risks. We worriers feel a tremendous intolerance for uncertainty. We somehow get the idea that worrying can eliminate it. But you can’t prepare for everything, and besides, jesus sadi, who among you can add one more day to our lives byu worrying? I recently found out about a simple “exposure” technique: Practice saying or writing whatever you fear most, such as, “the plane is going to crash” or “I’m going to lose my job.” “Repeat it over and over again slowly, like a zombie, and the fear will begin to subside,” he says. Eventually, you’ll just get bored with it.
In closing, in wishing you one more “Merry Monday!”, let me share something with you my co-hort, the Train Scroundrel, Miss Geri shared with me:
Whatever your cross, whatever your pain, there will always be sunshine, after the rain…. Perhaps you may stumble, perhaps even fall; But God’s always ready, to answer your call…. He knows every heartache, sees every tear, a word from His lips, can calm every fear… Your sorrows may linger, throughout the night, But suddenly vanish, dawn’s early light…
The Savior is waiting, somewhere above, to give you his grace, and send you his love…
Hey YALL…Strut cho stuff…Merry Monday!
ps. If you are catching the train at the end of the day i hope you aren’t looking like:
October 29, 2013
To my fellow passengers…as communicated, this week the station we stopped in is called “No Worries”. Thanks for hopping aboard the train. Kick it (The music for the post)
Now, as wars continue around the world, we must remember our true battles are not against flesh and blood – not against terrorism or deceptive governments, nor an oppressive boss or unappreciative spouse – but “against the spiritual
forces of evil in the Heavenly realms” (Ephesians 6:12). The true battles occur in a world which is real, but unseen; and yet, the battles we see and hear everywhere we turn are the ones which tend to consume our thoughts and
cause us to become angry…and to fear.
As Jesus was teaching and healing around the Sea of Galilee, large crowds of people began to come out to Him. One evening, Jesus decided to leave the crowds behind and sail with His disciples to the other side of the sea. As Jesus slept in the back of the boat, a terrible storm soon developed. The disciples woke Jesus and cried out in fear, “Teacher, don’t You care if we drown?” (Mark 4:38).
“He got up, rebuked the wind and said to the waves, ‘Quiet! Be still!’ Then the wind died down and it was completely calm. He said to His disciples, ‘Why are you so afraid? Do you still have no faith?’”
The disciples had seen Jesus cure a man with leprosy, heal a paralytic, and teach with the authority of Almighty God; but now they thought Jesus didn’t care. When Jesus rose, He rebuked the storm as well as His disciples. These men who were chosen to walk with the Son of God were now accused by Jesus of being afraid and living without faith.
This same event occurs in our life today. Jesus climbs into our boat and directs us to a distant shore. We’ve heard about His miracles so we joyfully cast off, expecting a smooth sail. Suddenly, the wind begins to blow and the waves turn white – this is probably not the voyage we had in mind. No longer able to see the shore, we begin to wonder why we ever set sail. Did we really hear His voice? And in our desperation we pathetically cry out, “Don’t You care if we drown?” … Is our faith really so weak?
In the midst of our fears, we must remember that He is the same God who created the Heavens and the earth, sent His Son to die for our sins, and gave us His Spirit “with whom we were sealed for the day of redemption” (Ephesians 4:30). He is the same God who chose us to walk by His side!
Jesus is still committed to our journey, and still in complete control. In His perfect timing He will calm ALL the wind and waves – ALL the roaring seas. When doubts begin to surface, we must draw even closer, hold on even tighter, and trust Him even deeper. No matter what battles we see with our eyes and hear with our ears, we must be determined to live each moment by faith and refuse to be afraid.
So my fellow passengers, not a sermon…just a thought!
All aboard! The LiFeTrain!!!
October 28, 2013
Generosity lies less in giving much than in giving at the right moment.
-Jean de la Bruyere
Hey Passengers, welcome back aboard the train. I used the above quote to communicate the purpose of the LiFeTrain. To give, and give at the right moment. With all that’s going on in our country, in our lives, jobs, let’s face it, there could be cause for worry. I pray you will hop aboard this week and pass this information along to our fellow passenger who do in fact deal with worry in their lives.
I researched and found that worry is made up of nagging, persistent thoughts that circle around in our heads. It is “what if” statements, worst-case scenarios, and awful predictions. The act of worrying is an obsessive, habitual behavior—and one that “WE” can give up. But before we can give it up, we are gonna have to accept that the act of worrying serves no purpose. Jesus said worrying will NOT add one extra day to our lives. Worrying is stealing our energy, fatiguing our muscles and body, exacerbating aches and pains, increasing vulnerability to stress and infection, distracting us from the present, interfering with sleep, inappropriately increasing or decreasing your appetite, and keeping us from more pleasurable or important tasks. It is time that we (passengers) recognize the act of worry serves no purpose and has become a bad habit. Stop back this week as we look at how to put up boundaries around worry.
All Aboard, The LiFeTrain!!!